If you want to win back lost love that is from a long time ago there may be an uphill battle ahead for you. If you are like many, you have reached a point in your life that you realize that things might have been better for you if you had taken that other path.
Maybe you thought the grass was greener. Maybe there was a litany of things you did wrong, or they did wrong, that drove you apart. Maybe you just miss a time you've idealized in your memory, putting gold pixie dust on cherished memories. If you want to move past the pixie dust and self delusion, follow these tips.
First, make sure that there is nothing in your life right now that may missing out on. The mistake you may have made in the past was that you didnt take advantage of the opportunities that you had at that moment. Make sure that you dont make the same mistake again by missing out on something potentially good.
A life built on regretful reflection isn't the one you want to lead. Look for love now, in your current relationship rather than spend the rest of your life going What if... Also, think about your current partner " jilting him or her so you can go chase an old flame is going to do bad things to their self esteem. Does going after an old flame make you look selfish? Chances are, it does.
It's also worthwhile to ask if they've moved on. Quite honestly, time wounds all heels, and heals all wounds. Just because you're not happy with your present partner and are longing for what you gave up doesn't mean they're feeling the same way about you. Trying to re-open a dormant relationship could hurt both of you.
Ask yourself if they're happy and content. If they are, leave well enough alone. All you'll do by dredging up might have beens is make both of you miserable. That may seem cool in movies, but it sucks in real life.
Everyone changes over time. You changed. They've changed. Events may well have made you entirely different people. The circumstances that your old relationship had don't exist any more. If you're going to make the second go around, focus not on the past, but on the future you want to build together.
Nothing reeks more of desperation than suddenly appearing in someone else's life. Start out slowly, read the signs carefully, and move cautiously. Even if you are obsessed and desperate, that's only appealing in stupid movies. In real life, it's creepy.
Build up to it slowly. Don't tell them how much you love them and can't live without them. (If you can't live without me, why aren't you dead yet? is a good phrase to remember.) Take the time to know them, befriend them, and let them know you, and how you've changed for the better.
As with any relationship, look forward. Forgive the past, learn from the past, and let it lie on its own. What matters is proving that the future you can have together is worth pursuing.
You need to make the most of the chances you're given, and you need to focus on what you (and they) stand to gain from linking up again. Take advantage of today, so that tomorrow is not full of regrets for choices left unmade. If you're going to have a chance at making this love work again, you need to live in the moment, not the past.
Maybe you thought the grass was greener. Maybe there was a litany of things you did wrong, or they did wrong, that drove you apart. Maybe you just miss a time you've idealized in your memory, putting gold pixie dust on cherished memories. If you want to move past the pixie dust and self delusion, follow these tips.
First, make sure that there is nothing in your life right now that may missing out on. The mistake you may have made in the past was that you didnt take advantage of the opportunities that you had at that moment. Make sure that you dont make the same mistake again by missing out on something potentially good.
A life built on regretful reflection isn't the one you want to lead. Look for love now, in your current relationship rather than spend the rest of your life going What if... Also, think about your current partner " jilting him or her so you can go chase an old flame is going to do bad things to their self esteem. Does going after an old flame make you look selfish? Chances are, it does.
It's also worthwhile to ask if they've moved on. Quite honestly, time wounds all heels, and heals all wounds. Just because you're not happy with your present partner and are longing for what you gave up doesn't mean they're feeling the same way about you. Trying to re-open a dormant relationship could hurt both of you.
Ask yourself if they're happy and content. If they are, leave well enough alone. All you'll do by dredging up might have beens is make both of you miserable. That may seem cool in movies, but it sucks in real life.
Everyone changes over time. You changed. They've changed. Events may well have made you entirely different people. The circumstances that your old relationship had don't exist any more. If you're going to make the second go around, focus not on the past, but on the future you want to build together.
Nothing reeks more of desperation than suddenly appearing in someone else's life. Start out slowly, read the signs carefully, and move cautiously. Even if you are obsessed and desperate, that's only appealing in stupid movies. In real life, it's creepy.
Build up to it slowly. Don't tell them how much you love them and can't live without them. (If you can't live without me, why aren't you dead yet? is a good phrase to remember.) Take the time to know them, befriend them, and let them know you, and how you've changed for the better.
As with any relationship, look forward. Forgive the past, learn from the past, and let it lie on its own. What matters is proving that the future you can have together is worth pursuing.
You need to make the most of the chances you're given, and you need to focus on what you (and they) stand to gain from linking up again. Take advantage of today, so that tomorrow is not full of regrets for choices left unmade. If you're going to have a chance at making this love work again, you need to live in the moment, not the past.
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So there you have it. Some useful steps to get your ex back. Recover the magic of that moments with the one you love.
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