Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Friday, June 12, 2009

Do You Want Your Husband Back? How to Do it

By Ricardo d Argence

Sometimes marriages crumble rather quickly and other times they can take years to deteriorate. Either way it is never an easy thing to go through. Many women that find themselves in this situation find themselves saying I want my husband back.

If you aren't willing to let your marriage die, if you aren't willing to let it fall apart right before your very eyes, then do something about it. Here are some things that can help you get that love back when "I want my husband back."

1. Realize that it wasn't just you and it wasn't just him. It was the both of you. If you are willing to make changes in the way you approach the marriage, your husband might be willing to. Some of it comes down to the way you look at the situation.

2. Think about what makes you happy as well as what makes your husband happy. Make sure that you are both willing to make sacrifices to make to other happy.

3. Start with where you are in life and see where you are in life. Look at what it is that makes you happy and drives you. Look for the same thing with your husband. Try to find common ground. If there is love there, you will find that common ground.

4. It is important that you and your husband do something together that makes you both happy. Think about the things that you used to love to do together. Take a walk, go to the beach, have a nice dinner or go for a hike. Find something that you can do alone together to work on building your relationship. A little romance never hurt anyone, but it is important that you dont go over the top.

5. It is important that you let your husband know just how much he means to you. You should do this but recognizing the things that he has said that he needs from you. You need to take the appropriate steps to prove to him that he is worth saving your marriage for. While you shouldnt expect him to do the same, you will find that he is likely to start giving a little in your direction as well. Your reason for changing needs to be because you love your husband and you want to fix your marriage. This is where being selfish is not an option.

You have to know that it may not be possible to get back the relationship to the level it was when it was at it's peak. Just because "I want my husband back" doesn't mean that it is the best thing to get it back to the way that it was.

It is important to remember that just because your relationship is at a low point; it wont always be that way. Many times it hitting all time lows in a relationship can help to build a healthier stronger relationship in the future. It takes a lot of hard work and dedication, but getting your husband back will be worth it in the end.

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