Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Tuesday, June 9, 2009

If You Wonder How to Win Your Love Back

By Ricardo d Argence

If you're looking around wondering how to win your love back, then you've no doubt found yourself in a situation where you're still in love with your ex, but your ex has walked out of the relationship.

The first part of your efforts to win your love back is to take a step back, cool off and pull yourself together. Trying to win back your ex immediately after the breakup is not a good idea. The wounds are still too fresh; you need to take a little time for yourself and get yourself together before you proceed.

Your first thought should always be to look after yourself. That means avoiding your ex and making no contact with them at all. It's not going to be easy to go from being in a relationship with your ex to making no contact with your ex, but it is vital that you do. Contacting your ex makes you weak and puts you in a negative and vulnerable position. Particularly if your ex has asked to be left alone.

Constantly calling or trying to see your ex means that you become less appealing to them. Exs hate needy and desperate, so back off if you want to win your love back.

Instead, work at sorting yourself our. As you focus on yourself make sure that you're not spending all your time on your own. It is very easy to find that when the love of your life walks out on you that you end up filling that space doing nothing but thinking about them. This is a surefire way to find yourself depressed and low and recovering from depression brings a whole other level of problems that you don't need.

Get out of the house and hang out with your friends and your family, no matter how much you want to be alone. Spending time with the people who care about you will take your mind off of the breakup and begin rebuilding your self esteem. Take up some activities which keep you busy and let you meet new people. When you keep yourself occupied and socially engaged, you'll get over the worst of the breakup much more quickly.

As you slowly get back on your feet after the shock of the breakup, you should then begin to think about any role that you might have played in the breakup of the relationship.

It is very easy to blame your ex for everything that has gone wrong, but remember, it takes two to make a relationship and two to break that relationship. So during this time away from your ex as you work on figuring out how to get back with them, make sure that you are honest with yourself and that you claim any part of the breakup that is down to you.

If there's something you did which caused the end of the relationship, then you need to not only accept responsibility for your actions but decide how you can change your behavior to avoid repeating your mistakes.

These are the first steps you'll need to take in trying to win your love back. Some of them may be difficult for you and even the opposite of what you would like to do, but if you want a chance at rekindling the relationship, you need to use these techniques.

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