Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Tuesday, October 22, 2013

Effective Grief Counseling Online Services

By Cornelia Reyes


The loss of people or things we cherish and love could be painful and stressful. Therefore, one may be faced with numerous psychological problems in such circumstances as they tries to manage and adjust to the new situation after the occurrence of such losses. This is coupled with the feeling that such conditions will never end and will persist. Importantly people react to such situations differently and therefore there is no appropriate ways of grieving. Due the rise in number of such cases grief counseling online has come up with effective ways to assist and helps such service seekers adjust and cope up with such life challenges.

These are natural response to loss. People tend to feel this way when they are coming in terms with the loss of someone or something the dearly love. Most often grief is a significance of loss, therefore the greater the loss the more intense the grief. The following factors may cause grief such as death of a loved one or pet, divorce and relationship breakups, loss of a job, retirement, miscarriage, selling family home among others.

Certain factors have been attributed to be the causative agents of grief. This includes miscarriage, retirement, selling of your family home, relationship break ups and divorce, death etc. There are five designed major steps in which individuals may undergo during grief.

This makes them to becomes annoyed and for their actions and begins to hate themselves. They blame themselves for the things they ought to have done to avoid such problems they are facing. Thirdly, they start to bargain with the situations that have led to the occurrence opting that things will be better.

This is a defense mechanism that plays a significant role in copying with such happenings. The second stage is anger, this occur as they feel hungry with themselves and start blaming themselves for the loss incurred. The fourth stage is known as bargaining, while the fourth stage is depression. Additionally, the fifth stage often referred to as acceptance, they accept the situation and designs self-management strategies to cope up with such challenges.

They find themselves in sad moods and feeling and most often regrets on the things they ought to do or avoid doing which could enable them to avoid such present conditions. This makes them feel angry with themselves for such circumstances. It is important to note that if not effectively managed, such conditions can be detrimental to the lives of those affected.

In coping with such loss one should opt for seeking support from other people. Even though one might find it hard to talk about their feelings with other people, it is of great significant for them to express their feeling when they are grieving. This entails sharing their feelings with others, this helps in making the burden lighter.

It is of great importance as this provides an avenue to let out your feelings. Therefore, people should consider talking to their family members or friends and religious leaders to assist in letting out such feelings. Grief counseling online services are available to offer optimum helps to such individuals.




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