Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Thursday, November 29, 2012

What To Look For In Bereavement Counseling Services

By Lucile Jacobs


Grieving is a way of responding to loss and the pain that comes with it. Mourning for your loved one is healthy. However, these emotions need to be kept in check so that they do not affect you negatively. This is where New Jersey bereavement counseling services come in. The counselors are trained to help people overcome grief.

A bereavement therapist provides counseling to people who are dealing with grief. They are trained to help people get back on their feet and regain emotional control. Such counselors are not created equal, and it is up to you to find the right one. This process is much easier if you have the right and relevant information.

There are various factors you should consider when searching for a counselor. Perhaps the two most important qualities are skills and ethics. In such circumstances, it is wise to seek references from your friends or colleagues. You need to meet with these professionals so as to decide if they are good for you or your loved one.

Grieving is very personal and everyone does it in their own unique way. Some people will cry while other will try to block out these emotions permanently. There are also those who will result to taking alcohol and other drugs to help them deal with the pain. In order to get help, you must confide in the therapist and let them in on what you are going through.

Your health insurance coverage is another factor that you ought to consider. To avoid misunderstandings, you can contact your insurer to inquire on what percentage of the total cost is covered under the policy. This will help you to plan and budget for the costs in good time. It will also guide you in your choice of therapist.

Never ignore your gut feeling when looking for a bereavement counselor. Remember this is someone who you will trust with your inner most feelings. The counselor should also open up to you and tell you why they decided to become a grief therapist. They have suffered a painful loss and they can resonate with what you are feeling.

Bereavement counseling is a sensitive and delicate matter. In light of this, you need to find an expert who specializes in this. They should be knowledgeable in this area and have the relevant training. If your child is dealing with loss you need to find an expert who deals with children. Kids respond to loss in a different way and they need someone they can open up to.

There are numerous agencies that provide New Jersey bereavement counseling services. It is important to screen them and pick out the best counselor for you or your loved one. It is wise to know what bereavement counseling entails so that you can know the kind of services to expect. The information will also help you to pick a therapist who is right for you.




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