Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Struggling With Grief and Loss in 3 Basic Steps

By Sandro Malling


Suffering from grief and loss is rarely a painless time for those who involved. However, there is a positive as well as a negative manner of handling the situation.

Carrying out it the positive way will give you peace and acceptance. Going down the negative way will take you more pain and grief. So despite how tempting it really is to crash and burn, you realize what's right for you.

If you are going through grief and loss, or if perhaps you are aware of someone in this situation, you'd benefit from reading this article.

The First Task: Accept Your Loss.

The first thing you should do while confronting grief and loss is to try to accept what is happening. All of us have experienced grief in a form or another. Nobody is exempted from it.

What happened to you is perhaps too painful to contemplate, but you're going to have to affirm that you'll find nothing you could have done, or do now, to stop the incident. Everything happens for a reason.

Step 2: Go Through The Pain Of Grief.

Accepting your loss will not automatically erase the agony that is included with it. No doubt you are not planning to provide an easy time letting the memory of these person go. During this time around that you ought to allow yourself to grieve.

Cry all you want. Set time aside from work and mope in your house. Endure that person's personal belongings and think about the time you spent together. Holding your feelings in will only prolong the pain.

Going through grief and loss properly means going through the whole process naturally. Don't numb all those feelings by getting drugs and drinking to death. This aspect of the whole grieving process takes quite a while.

Step 3: Recover.

Once you have exhausted yourself from grieving whatever is lost, after you are able to face the world again. Here is the stage if you pick yourself up, one piece at any given time.

Although the pain may still be around, you will be definitely, willing to move forward. It can be time for you to get hold of your friends and make them aware that you are okay. Or possibly, just start with having coffee outside your home or taking your dog out for a walk. Take action that signifies a new start.

One of the keys is to try to proceed and look at about the important things you can do in todays and future.

Nobody asserted experiencing grief and loss can be as simple as popping a pill. The pain of losing someone would not disappear overnight. When you can't exactly change the circumstances, you definitely, cost nothing to decide on the manner in which you grieve.




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