Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Friday, March 2, 2012

Show Love And Support With Bereavement Quotes

By Jerri Segal


We cannot just let our dear ones suffer in silence. We are also affected by their loss, sadness, grief and sorrow. We should try to reach out to the bereaved, especially if they are intimate to us. We can send bereavement quotes to the bereaved. Along with the quotes, we should show them how much we care about them.

Nothing we can do can bring the loved one back to life. We have to find ways of showing our sympathy and support to the bereaving person. A bereavement gift along with an appropriate quote can be sent to the grieving person. However, it is essential to choose the content and gift item with care. A wrong choice can upset the bereaving family.

An appropriate gift can be sent along with a short message that tells the bereaved how sorry you are for his/her loss. The message should be kept honest and short. The message also serves as a means of supporting the grieving person. A message can dampen or brighten the mourning person's day, and should be chosen with care.

The most delicate period of mourning is when we express our sympathies. Our choice of words should show understanding and empathy. The mourner should draw comfort and joy from them. If the deceased is close to you, let the mourner know how much he/she meant to you. Do not concoct stories to make the mourner feel you know the deceased if you do not; just acknowledge the death and express your sympathy.

Follow the basic guidelines when picking a quote. Not all bereavement quotes available online/offline will do. The chosen message is to be sent as soon as you are informed of the death. Avoid composing a lengthy message; chose a short one. Endeavor to sign your name in full beneath the note you are sending. Do not leave the bereaved wondering who sent such a lovely message.

Endeavor to keep your emotion in check. An overemphasis could be thought to be insincere. You can also send a gift along with the bereavement message. When confused about the choice of gift, simply send a flower.

Journals, religious materials, a book of quotes, collections of photographs as well as plants can also be used as gifts. The gift does not replace the loss, but can bring some comfort. It helps to keep the bereaved mind occupied and also help them not feel alone in their suffering.

Do not prevent the mourning person from grieving; research has shown that it is healthy. It is paramount that they are not left alone. More of our time, should be spent with them. We should show our support in whatever way we can.

When you are uncertain of the right words to say, silence should be observed. Your presence will help to comfort the mourning person. If the mourner is a religious person, take time to pray with him/her. Also, provide the person with appropriate religious materials to help with the grief.




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