Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Monday, December 26, 2011

Helpful Tips How To Handle Grief From Death And Loss

By Harold Chan


When someone close to you dies, you feel sad. These feelings are a difficult but indispensable fragment of the process of healing. In instances like these, you might believe that the circle of life is not so kind after all. It is very difficult if you lost someone especially close to you.

The first stage to healing is to face the truth of the matter head on. Talking about your thoughts as well as feelings will help. Family and friends are an excellent sounding board during the hard moments. As you learn to speak your emotions of grief and loss, you'll gradually recognize the truth that, indeed, the one you love has really died.

Isolating yourself from other people around you will just worsen your hurting feelings. Don't seclude yourself nor keep your emotions to yourself so you can already take on the healing process.

When you undergo the phase of grieving, you get to clear your mind and emotions. It is an outlet of pain which enables you to save your spirit and mind from what looks like never-ending distress and sorrowfulness. This lightens your emotional load to help you feel relieved.

One great tip to follow would be to catch up on old friendships. Making new friends will also help. You could just say hi and start a conversation with anyone. Old and new friends will be a tremendous blessing to a person who has recently lost a loved one. Loss is a universal emotion that everyone has experienced at one time or another. People will understand what you're going through.

Get used to the truth that your loved one will no longer be around when you have to return to your much loved hang outs. Learn how to do things or go to places without the company of that person anymore. Face the world out there head on and try to live your life with a brand new start. Trust in your heart that things will fall into place again.

Time heals all wounds. Recall the good times that you spent with the person. Be happy that family and friends were there during the funeral services and that he or she is well loved by plenty of people, including you.




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