Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Sunday, October 9, 2011

Navigating Your Options When Selecting The Right Funeral Home For Your Family

By Adriana Noton


There are many decisions that we look forward to. There are equally as many decisions we're not looking forward to. Selecting the right funeral home is not a decision anyone looks forward to. However selecting the right one can become the key factor in honoring your loved one with reverence and respect.

For those needing to find the right mortuary for their loved one, the decision ahead holds the seriousness and importance of keeping family values and traditions intact amidst a major family loss. Most families maneuver this time of crisis jumping over obstacles, tackling challenges, and gathering together. Having an advanced directive certainly mitigates most issues, serves as a guide for the family decisions remaining, and is always ideal.

Advanced directives are rare, and few people have them. This makes it more than likely that a family will have to make several choices on their own, it is more practical to follow a few generic guides to help you make the decisions ahead. While it is certainly a harrowing time, tried and true guides will help you celebrate the life that was.

It will be important to keep the focus of all services on family traditions and values. Also selecting a location that is close in geographical location to the main family home will help during a time of turmoil. It is likely that you will spend the first two to three critical days at the funeral home simply making arrangements, and selecting the right funeral home often includes proximity to a primary home. Finding a close funeral home that helps you celebrate life is a way to honor with reverence.

Most funeral service industry representatives are well equipped at handling situations that arise during family crisis. Their purpose is helping you provide services that celebrate and honor the life of your loved one. You should feel comfortable finding ways together to incorporate the life of your loved on into every aspect of the services.

With a keen eye, attention to detail, and a focus on family traditions, there are many ways to achieve this. For example, add a butterfly release to a service if your loved one loved butterflies, changing seasons, spring, or the theme of renewal. A personal touch like this will have lasting effects on family members, evoke memories long forgotten, and leave a lasting impression keeping the memory of your loved one alive in spirit. A funeral home that helps you accomplish making the services personal and tailored to your loved one is serving you best.

Financial arrangements are often the biggest factor in how humble or how grand a funeral is. It is also the key factor that most families look at when deciding on the right home. There are funeral homes owned, and directed by corporate conglomerates, and there are family-owned mortuaries that have been family owned for generations. Making arrangements that don't have you sacrificing for years to come reminding you of your grief are the best arrangements to have. Some family-owned homes offer payment plans that span many years, and some conglomerates are able to offer lower pricing as they pool services together from other homes in the local region.

Making final resting arrangements for a loved one is a very tough and trying experience for any person and family to undergo. By staying true to your family traditions and values, you can be proud with the ways you choose to honor your loved one. Selecting the right funeral home is something no one wants to do, but finding one to help you remember and celebrate your family traditions will help you stay focused on the important things.




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