Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Monday, September 19, 2011

Three Techniques To Stand Grief And Move On With Life

By Daryl B. Chapman


In one way or another, each person is bound to face grief. At one point, everyone can lose someone important like a next of kin, a friend, a dog because death is inescapable. To understand grief better, one must look at it as a multifaceted reaction because grieving is not just obvious in the emotions projected by a person. It can also bring about social, philosophical and physical reactions.

Just say that someone in the family inadvertently died. The immediate family may show signs of strong emotions like extreme sadness and anger. Physically, they may become dumbfounded or speechless. Inability to sleep and nausea can also be observable. Socially, the bereaved can withdraw themselves from the crowd. Philosophical reactions on the other hand have something to do with the individual beliefs or religion of the bereaved. Some can experience renewal of faith while for some a strong religious conviction.

Since grieving and loss is inevitable, it can happen to a buddy, a celebrity, a neighbor and you. To survive grief and move on with life, here are suggested ways:

Understand The Normal Process Of Grief According to Kubler-Ross there are 5 stages of grief. As projected, people go through serious and significant loss. However, there are times when they get stuck in one of the first four stages. For sure, life can be painful after a loss. But after the last stage, which is acceptance, one can move on with life. Following are the 5 stages of grief:

First stage: Denial and Isolation; Second stage: Anger; Third Stage: Bargaining; Fourth stage: Depression; Fifth stage: Acceptance.

Remember that loss and death can affect people differently. Yes, it is complex but life has to move on and people must accept that death is part of life. To accept loss, release the pain. If there's anything that you should keep, keep the good reminiscences.

Look For Support Groups Or Friends Who Can Help You You can count on true friends who will stick to you through thick and thin. Trust true friends. Find ease and solace in their kind words and endeavors. Read their letters because they will strengthen your spirit and inspire you to move with life. However be careful and keep away from people who camouflaged themselves as friends. They are the ones who will entice you to try drugs and alcohol. These people are bad influence. You should not run to them for comfort, rather these are the people you should get away from. Keep in mind that drugs and alcohol are not the best solutions to what is happening to you. They can only provide temporary deliverance and they can only delay your grieving. And you wouldn't want that.

Discover Healthy Activities To Engage In When you are lonely, you think of almost everything especially if you are not doing something. Just like what they say, the idler's mind is the most wanted playground of the devil. Do not just bum around the house, doing nothing. Yes, for the first days, it is excusable to withdraw yourself away from people. Conversely it is not the end of the world. Find and engage in healthy activities that can preoccupy you like gardening at home and going to place of worship. These activities can also help you discover that life is a gift and that everything happens for a reason. Try to find meaning and purpose in your life.

Grieving is complex but people have survived. If you are experiencing grief today and you wish to get back to life, you can. Be positive and stay strong. Consider the tips above and hold on to your faith. Keep in mind that life is too short. Your decision today can change what will happen to you in your future.




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