Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Thursday, April 14, 2011

Life Coaching Through Experience

By Wayne Sutton


Everyone is in a Routine

Morning breaks, people start their routine, businessmen begin thinking of the day's itinerary, students begin packing their books, others think of anything under the sun, and even those without anything to actually do stand by and wait whatever happens. One thing is common among all these: they are waiting for something to happen for them to react beyond their routine.

It wouldn't be a surprise if ever the events in their lives would have a change in their way of thinking, or if the events would just be a normal occurrence for them to shrug off and move on. These events will be experiences, and these events would be life coaching for them.

When Dire Events Become Life Coaching Events

The normal routine for people to go about and do what they have been accustomed to do may not bear any weight in their character building since it becomes automated.

However, given a situation where a bomb explodes, a car collides, or even be in an accident because one has been so busy crossing the street holding a cellular phone and talking instead of concentrating on crossing would definitely be traumatic enough to teach a lesson to the individual.

Unexpected events become life coaching incidents, especially if it teaches people what to do to avoid being involved in an unfortunate accident.

When Rewards Become Life Coaching Events

On the same note, when a person is rewarded by something he did or contributed, and the reward is significant enough for that individual to cherish, there is a tendency that the individual will keep in mind what things are supposed to be done to be rewarded with the same thing. Life coaching in this manner is done by inputting certain actions for rewards and keeping in mind that good things come when certain actions are done in a situation.

When Experiences in General Complete the Life Coaching Process

So throughout the day, a person may encounter both positive and negative events. Some may have so much good events and rewards that it boosts his self-esteem, and it becomes his motivation and drive to do even better. Some unfortunately get more negative events and ill-timed occurrences that it may demoralize the person and lose interest in what he is supposed to do.

Life coaching process in this manner is a double edged sword and is dependent on the person's mindset. A person who is passive may succumb to hopelessness when faced with negative events, while proactive people are challenged to overcome it.

A person's mindset is an incomplete life coaching method since it depends on the previous attitude that he was brought up to be. This is but a small problem since there is an easy solution for this to help the individual cope up with it.

This is where supplemental life coaching from people and professionals are needed. These supplemental life coaches will enhance the positive and proactive mindset of the individual in order for him to look at things positively even if faced with a negative one.

Experiences are good if the person has been molded into a proactive and optimistic person. Nonetheless, being optimistic and having a good life coach perspective needs a constant maintenance of both experiences and supplemental life coaching from other people.

And that is why socialization experience is also an important form of life coaching.




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