Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Friday, February 11, 2011

Tips To Console A Friend Who Lost Someone

By Charles W. Hamilton


The loss or grief is very difficult part of one's life but these are un-avoidable too. No person has full control over the life he is lining and the fate is a truth. When it comes to the young children, most of the time they don't know to take some tragic incident and lack in reactions. They are seen unaware of the situation and don't know what to do in such cases when someone very dearest dies. This can be very insecure for them to deal with the grief and loss.

So it becomes necessary to guide them fairly while being kind. First of all, they should be made to accept what happened so there should be no fake stories.

Fake stories will make them more anxious and nervous. Instead, be honest and communicate with them in a simple way. Share their feelings and let them ask questions. While answering their questions, try to be straightforward and uncomplicated.

Never elaborate too much and be as simple as you can. Too much stuff can cause nervous disorder as mostly children are frightened of death.

Keep your daily routine and activities same as you used to do before the incident. This will help them to react natural and they will heal in time. Try to spend time with them and let them open to you. Some youngsters show reluctance in expressing their emotions but communication will definitely open doors.

A better communication and proper guidance will automatically make them behave in a natural way and they will learn a lot.

You should be available for them to discuss any issue and control their grief of any unforgettable incident like death anniversary.

The moments of grief can be again reminded by them and they can get sad, you should keep in mind that don't use the harsh language and listen to them completely and then give them a shoulder of care and affection.




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