Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Saturday, January 29, 2011

Losing A Loved One: Facing Sadness

By Ellen D. Dukes


Statistics have shown that people at the age of 18 are experiencing forms of depression and even children do feel depression. Depression is a critical form of grief in which a person who has experienced grief is not able to cope well with the loss of a loved one. With that, it is very important that you know how to treat and communicate with people with grief and depression.

Acceptance is the main key to getting through grief but in order for you to accept what is right infront of you, there are stages in which you have to go through. There will be periods of denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and then comes acceptance. It is much better to accept the things rather than ignore them.

Learn to live with grief. If not, learn how to cope with grief. If grief is taking over your life, it will take form into depression where you will experience disinterest to everything you find interesting before. The moment this happens, it will be tougher to manage.

Be in tune with your feelings. Do not try to suppress them. Talk to your family and friends and admit if you are having difficulties accepting the fact that a loved one is good. They will surely understand what you are feeling and would help you go through the process.

Take things one step at a time. Do not try to push things you want to do. You might end up skipping the normal process of grieving. Most of the time, taking things hard and fast would suppress your emotions.

Do the things that you really love to do. If you love going outdoors then by all means do what you need to do to cope with your feelings. Do not bound yourself inside a room and pretend that everything is okay. Be out there.

Get back to your routine if possible. You might be doing a lot of things together with your loved one who just passed away but learn to do them alone. Put yourself on a daily routine to let the days pass by.

Always remember that you are not alone and that you have family and friends who are around you that you can talk to when you feel sad. Trust in them that everything will be alright.




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