Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Monday, January 31, 2011

Grievance: Coping with Loss

By Ryan Crest


It's normal to lose someone dear to us in this lifetime. And because of this special bond and memories that they have had with this person or persons, it may take a while for them to get over their death. Normally, it would take up to about six months to grieve or to cope up with a death. However for some, it takes much longer even up to a year. The longer this last it gives a negative impact on the emotion to the point of no return.

People have many ways of coping up when someone special to them dies. Some people would develop new habits like smoking, cigarettes or electronic ones they can get with a green smoke cigarette. Some grievers would smoke packs and packs of these cigarettes, hoping to forget that feeling of emptiness and sadness due to the loss of someone dear to them. As it is, it is not advisable to smoke because one may get certain conditions like cancer and many others.

Art is a great outlet to grieving. Through art, they get to express what they're feeling deep inside. Friends and relatives who get to see their pieces should not be shocked if their paintings appear sad, angry, lifeless and the like. Since this person is in grief, expect their output or their work to be something near this feeling.

Those who have lost someone want to forget the pain and the sadness which is why they turn to alcohol. Their thinking is that alcohol numbs their mind and body from the feelings they get from losing someone. This is not entirely true but the minds of these grievers are already set. Some accompany alcohol drinking with smoking. While drinking the nights and days away, they smoke with a e-cigarette they got from a green smoke cigarette or real tobacco.

It is also important to take note of ones health, whatever coping mechanism you may use. Some of these mechanisms can harm you and you don't want to reach the point where you need to be taken care of. During this period of sadness and mourning, it is okay for them to be like this. This moment will just pass when they have finally accepted their loss and understood everything else around them. This is a temporary moment so you should not become too worried.




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