Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Thursday, December 2, 2010

Better ways to Save A Marriage

By Mustapha Lateef


If your married life is in trouble, you ought to be able to understand the exact problem and then control the situation. Taking any harsh decision may well be embarrassing for the personal and social status of the happy couple.

It's not important whether you are man or woman, whether you keep an eye on the kids or settle the bills, you ought to take initiative to resolve the problems in married life and look after the human relationships. This article provides details about some methods to save marriage and to look after a wholesome bond.

If your marriage is in peril, try not to show your partner the tension or desperation you're feeling. It will make him/her feel suffocated and your partner will push you away. Always try to control your feelings and keep calm.

One thing to remember is that never beg for the return of your partner. Just show the depth of your passion that will make him/her to go back. One of the essential suggestions to save being married is to give the space to your partner. A little space may make the things much simpler to manage. Give time to do those things which get you to feel good and strong about you. Spend a little while with your family and friends. Do such things that grow your self-pride.

Work to find out an area where both the partners can agree and be pleased with the choices. Always remember that the purpose of a marriage is to help and support each other through sadness and happiness. Love is an important bridge in a married life that may keep the happy couple attached together. Show your passion to your partner in a new way everyday. Use romantic competition and games to meet up with or you may send a romantic lesson to your partner.

One of the significant tips to save marriage is that you should understand one another very well. Then only, you will able to resolve the problems in your married life without producing disputes. Your partner ought to be the first priority for you and you should know about the hobbies and interests of your partner. You can write a romantic poem or prepare a romantic meal or give a romantic gift to your partner.

Avoid continuously complaining about the small issues and try to disregard the unimportant things. If there's any serious issue that you are unsatisfied about, talk about it clearly. Have open discussions about it with your partner. Get ready for facing the challenges.

Jealousy may lead many couples to the separation court. Hence, don't ever be jealous about the professional and personal progress of your partner. Be honest to your partner and constantly have a powerful belief in him/her.

If your spouse is aggressive, you should be calm and keep your emotions in control. Be reasonable, rational and calm. Whenever you lose your temper during the arguments, you in the main tend to say and perform the things that you actually didn't mean.

If your being married is going bad, these tips to save marriage might be of assistance to bring it back to its previous loving partnership.




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