Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Friday, July 23, 2010

Finding A Therapist Or Counselor Who's Meets Your Needs

By Mark Tinley

If you've been in therapy previously, you probably know it's a life-changing process. If you never have, you may not know the things to look for in a therapist or counselor. Either way, you might not know what questions to ask a prospective counselor.

Often before people begin therapy, they've tried just about everything else to make changes in their lives. But nothing has worked - at least not for very long. As the emotional discomfort turns to anguish, it's not uncommon for people to ask themselves, "Why not try therapy? I have to do something to stop the pain."

Alas, whenever we're hurting significantly, we often don't think clearly, and numerous people turn to counseling and therapy (be it for individual psychotherapy, couples therapy, or family counseling) without questioning the prospective counselor.

But nevertheless, there is significantly more to picking a mental health professional than picking up a phone and making an appointment.

Asking the Right Questions

Almost anyone may call himself or herself a counselor, so choosing someone to work with on the basis of this title offers little insight into the person's credentials, training or credibility and almost no protection should you receive poor service.

Titles along the lines of marriage and family therapist, licensed clinical social worker, psychologist or psychiatrist are only allowed to be used by professionals with the matching qualifications who've acquired specialized education and instruction.

Moreover, licensed mental health professionals such as these ought to be members in good standing with their associated licensing entities. Verifying a license will allow you to discover something concerning the instruction and training the mental health professional has gone through and gives you some degree of safety should you receive inadequate or inappropriate treatment.

Yet, verifying a mental health professional's license and credentials doesn't give you a great deal of information regarding their specialized learning, experience and whether they'll be able to meet your needs.

The only way you can know if a counselor or therapist is qualified to provide you the services you need is to ask them direct questions, such as:

What age ranges do you treat?

What problems do you work with?

What kind of education and training have you had?

How long have you been providing therapy?

Have you been in therapy?

How do you work with clients that helps them get better?

Do you participate in any professional groups?

Do you update your education and training?

You needn't ask every one of these - especially in an initial appointment when you need lots of time to talk yourself. But do ask them. And trust your impression of safety with the psychotherapist in the initial session. Perhaps the most significant determinant of effective counseling is the bond or "fit" between both you and your psychotherapist. Unless you feel relaxed and safe with your psychotherapist, it will be practically impossible for you to do the deep, insightful work needed to heal and thrive.

Beyond ascertaining the credentials, training, and competencies of a therapist and how relaxed and secure you are using them, the therapist will want to ask several questions regarding you and your situation. They too need to ensure there is a good match relating your personality, expectations and aims with who they are and the treatments they provide.

The therapist is likely to ask you what brings you to counseling, as well as about your family and overall background. They will often also inquire about your childhood, schooling, social relationships, intimate partnerships, professional and current circumstances.

Keep in mind, even the best counselors aren't the best for everyone, and no therapist can effectively treat anything and everything. When you're looking for a therapist, ask for an example of an issue that is beyond the scope of their practice, or that they are insufficiently trained to treat. If they can't or won't answer, you've just eliminated a possibility. All therapists should be willing to refer you to other providers upon request.

Where to Start Your Search

To find a counselor or therapist that's right for you, start your search by asking your physician, clergy or other professional service providers you trust for referrals.

You may also ask trusted friends or family, or you can search the Internet for counselors in your area. But be aware, an exceptional ad or Web page isn't going to make a therapist skilled or experienced. Ask the therapist about their education and expertise directly, regardless of whether you obtain a recommendation from a reliable source.

As with selecting any service provider, doing due diligence and making an informed determination about whom to use increases the likelihood that counseling will be effective and allow you to achieve your objectives. Don't be self-conscious or scared to ask direct questions... After all, this can be about your health, well-being and future happiness!

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