Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Wednesday, May 26, 2010

How A Headstone Consoles Someone's Grief

By Tom Tree

A headstone serves many purposes. You will find that to be true as you talk to different people. Here you will find how a headstone comforts grief. You might be surprised to see how useful a headstone is. There are many ways that a headstone can help a family with grief. Let's look at a few of those reasons.

One reason that it is so comforting is to know that people know who your loved one is. They know their name. They can celebrate with you the life they lead by knowing how old they were when they passed away. There are some people who can't afford a headstone and so family have to really search for the grave. It's very emotional. A headstone will help the family feel as though they were taken care of and thought of after they passed.

Others find comfort in knowing that a part of their legacy is on the stone. Many will show that they had a great mom and a great wife with these headstones. They remind them just how much they were needed in ones life. It can help you to recall all those good times which are hard because you will miss them, but they won't be forgotten.

Another way that it helps with grief is it allows the family to be reminded that they are better off. How many of us remember a loved one who might have been suffering? We hate to see them despair. Yet, if you create the headstone as many family members are left to do, they remember the good and honor the deceased in a way that they should be honored.

Last of all, it gives you a connection. Some of us are taught to talk to the person who is gone. When there is nothing there to talk to, many find that they bottle it all in. When you have a headstone, you have something to come to, to gather around. You have a place where you feel that if they were really there, they would meet you and that is a priceless feeling when you are learning to let go.

Here are just some of the ways that it can benefit a person. It's full of love and all the reminders that you aren't just burying a body. You are burying someone that you have loved. It makes it more personal, but is a constant reminder that while some are buried with nothing, there are people who do miss them and you are one of them.

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