Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Thursday, March 11, 2010

Tips to Writing a Good Sympathy Message

By Jenka Roni

A sympathy message, usually much longer than a sympathy note, is a message sent to someone who has just lost a loved one. Sympathy messages express our sympathy and offer our condolences in the form of writing. They aim to show a friend or loved one that we remember them in their times of grief and sorrow. Several people that are in mourning hold on to their sympathy messages as mementos of support during their difficult time.

Composing and sending a sympathy message was something that people have been doing since the 18th century. In the earlier days it used to be sent on a black-bordered card or other better stationary and this is followed even today. There is no correct or wrong time to send one, it can be sent before or after the funeral, as long as it is sent within a reasonable period of time.

A sympathy message does not have to be too long or elaborate but should simply express sorrow for the loss of a loved one and assurance that the person is in your thoughts and prayers. Often times it helps if you include some happy memories of the dead person. These words bring comfort to the family knowing that their loved one was important to others. It is a vital key in moving through the grieving process.

Something that should be surely avoided in the condolence message are negative encounters or any hurtful memories about the deceased person. These show very poor taste and do no one any good. The perfect condolence message would be a short , concise message with a personal touch and even a small anecdote and finally conveying to the family that they are not alone.

Sympathy messages could be sent to families of individuals that you were not very close to too due to their nature. In this case you should make sure to use a more formal structure and not be very personal.

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