Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Friday, October 9, 2009

Dealing With A Break Up Despite How Complicated It Sounds

By Nikki Frost

If you were not inclined to a break-up, break-up may hurt you. Your entire life is affected by a breakup; everything and every place seems to conjure up memories of your ex. You will even have to evaluate your friendships to see if they are worth the emotions caused by seeing them.

One of the biggest hurdles you have to face when dealing with a break up is your family and friends. If your ex was popular with your family, you're going to get tired of questions about the situation. You must explain to them that you're dealing with a break up and moving on, the break up is over, and that you don't appreciate constantly being reminded of your ex and the past relationship.

Sometimes this is difficult for family with dealing with a break up. They want to keep bringing up the person in the hopes that you'll get back together. You can just explain, "Moving on, break up is over, that's that."

Eventually they'll come around because they're your family and they love you. It's probably going to be harder to deal with when it comes to your friends.

If you didn't have many mutual friends, then it should be less of a problem dealing with a break up. But if the two of you often hung out with the same group of people, then you going alone to be with those friends is going to seem strange to everyone for a while. And then there's the problem of your ex wanting to hang out with the friends, too.

You can even collide when around the same friends. A breakup with your mate does not mean you should have to breakup with your friends also. Maintaining certain friendships may be difficult after you break up.

As difficult as it may seem,when you choose to separate and end a relationship,you may make things easier to end some of your mutual friendships as well. Dealing with a break up is easier if you and your ex are open with mutual friends.

Sometimes dealing with a break up is just too difficult when you're surrounded by mutual friends and so many places to go together. If possible, go on a vacation to get away from the same scenery and people. Once you're ready for dealing with a break up, then if you can take some time away it can help you a great deal.

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