Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Thursday, July 9, 2009

Is It The Right Time To End Your Relationship?

By Ricardo d Argence

If you are thinking that it may be time to end your relationship, it's important to know how to end a relationship properly and whether you should be ending a relationship. Not every relationship that has problems needs to end, and not every relationship that has ended needs to stay that way. The trick is having the knowledge to make the right decision.

Unfortunately there comes a time when certain relationships do need to end. These are serious instances like mental, physical, or verbal abuse where someone is being hurt in some way shape or form. Maybe you're having trouble controlling your own temper, which usually means it's time to walk the other way before something bad happens.

However, these are obvious reasons and not something you should consider in other situations. For instance, there may come a time when you just don't want the same things out of the relationship. Maybe one of you wants marriage and the other doesn't. Maybe someone's cheating, but whatever the case may be, these two scenarios are good reasons.

Ending a relationship shouldn't follow a big fight. This is how good relationships end up being broken apart when there's no reason they had to. When considering breaking it off with the other person, you need to have a clear head about the entire relationship.

Keep in mind you need to make it happen as soon as possible. Don't let it linger because things will only get worse. Just follow these guidelines and when your relationship ends, you'll be able to have a clean break.

The first thing to consider is keeping from playing games with one another. There is nothing worse then making the other person feel horrible, because you being immature about the situation. Granted its human nature to make the other person feel the way you do, but it only hurts the ending.

It's basically a trap. The easiest way for everyone to end their relationship is by being direct, honest, and proactive. If you treat the other person with respect, then it will keep either of you from feeling miserable.

Do it in person. Breaking up is a very painful experience for both parties. It is very tempting to bring the relationship to the end by email or phone or, these days, text message. That way, you don't have to see the look on their face or if you leave a message, without even talking to him.

But obviously, this is no way to end a relationship. If you do not interact with the other person will breaking up, you won't have any kind of closure. This defeats the entire point of making a clean break. Do both of you a favor and break up in person in a relatively private place.

And please, be honest. You need to tell the other person exactly why you are ending the relationship. This isn't easy, because they will have tendency to try and talk you out of it, but the truth is that lying to them about the reasons doesn't help either of you. Be honest, even if they don't want to hear it.

These three tips may not be huge, but they are definitely the most important points. Obviously you want things to go as smooth as possible, so make sure you end your relationship the right way. Then again, you may not need to end it at all. It all depends on the situation.

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