Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Accept Responsibility for Your Mistakes if You Want to Patch Things Up With Your Ex

By Ricardo d Argence

If you're hoping to get back together with your ex and you know that it was due to your mistakes that she left you, then you'll need to accept responsibility for those mistakes.

As sure as eggs are eggs, making mistakes in relationships means you have to fix them and apologize for those mistakes before there can be any making up.

When you try to patch things up with your ex, you'll need to acknowledge the reason why the relationship broke down in the first place and of course you'll also need to face up to what your part was in the breakdown.

You should also bear in mind that it won't do any good for you to come down too hard on yourself for having made mistakes. Remember, everybody makes mistakes and it's not the mistakes which are important, but rather high you deal with them afterwards.

And a time such as this, you'd be well advised to sit back and ponder as to what exactly when wrong. Of course, it only stands to reason that you will inevitably start thinking about mistakes which your ex made. However, you should bear in mind that this is something you can deal with at a later date. At present you should only be concerning yourself with those things which you are able to influence.

Irrespective of what mistakes you made in the past, do you think it's possible that your ex will be able to forgive you for them? Whatever you do, don't be too quick to come down hard on yourself by being that your mistakes are unforgivable.

You would be surprised at the situations that couples find themselves in and that they later recover from. So don't think that your mistakes are beyond forgiveness. There is always hope!

Furthermore, you need to try and determine what exactly what's happening at that time that you made the mistakes, particularly if they were in contrast to your usual character. This is where you may need to come face to face with accepting responsibility for your mistakes.

Perhaps you'll notice that at that time of you making those mistakes, you were under an exceptional amount of stress, or perhaps your career was lying in the balance. In fact, you may have been experiencing serious family issues or you may just not have been feeling like your usual self. If that was the case, then of course you'll need to sit down with your ex and explain everything in detail.

If your mistakes were the result of you just being thoughtless or selfish, then this is something about you and your character that can quite easily be fixed. It will take ongoing monitoring but if you are sincerely committed to get back with ex, then it is going to be worthwhile.

Once you're satisfied that you have a clear understanding with regards to your mistakes and why you made them, then you should consider contacting your ex to arrange a meeting. For your sake as well as her, you should choose to meet each other in a public area where there are lots of people as this will discourage both of you from becoming emotional.

When you do meet, you need to do what ever you must in order to remain calm and focused on what needs to be said. When the opportunity arises go ahead and apologize and ask her to forgive you. Once you're done then of course you need to listen carefully while your ex lets you know what's on her mind.

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