Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Sunday, June 28, 2009

I Have Been a Jerk, How Can I Win My Girlfriend Back?

By Ricardo d Argence

There are of course certain situations which occur from time to time that at best, could be described as a struggle. One such particular struggle is when we try to get our girl back after we've really blown it.

So what did you do? Did you cheat? Were you neglectful? Selfish? Or just unlucky? The questions could go on. Whichever or whatever you did, if you seriously want to get girl back, you're going to have to sort yourself out!

Because this advice which I'm about to share with you is for the most part counter- initiative, you may very well find it extremely difficult to do. Ideally, you should allow her some time to herself by leaving her alone. In many cases where this approach is taken, your ex will eventually realize just how much they miss you and as a result they will agree to give the relationship another chance.

Whenever you do, don't brush this possibility to the side irrespective of whether or not it appears that all is lost at present. If it works, it works and if it doesn't work, then it doesn't.

If however you would rather take a more direct approach at getting your girl back, then you really need to take some time out first. This will allow you time to get your head salted out while at the same time, you'll be giving her some time to think as well.

During this time out, you may want to spend time with friends or family. Whatever you do, you definitely don't want to be pestering her by sending her e-mails and text messages. Neither should you "accidentally" bump into in places where you know she's likely to show up. Rather than work in your favor, these tactics will more than likely drive her further away.

If you neglected her, missed her birthday, hardly ever took her out, then you need to seriously look at that behavior. No girl worth her salt is going to put up with such behavior.

Women love being made a fuss of, and they want their man to make them feel special. Also, they want to be sure that you want to be with them for more than just one reason, and if you fail to do that, they'll be on the way to look for someone who can.

Maybe you were simply spending a lot of time with your mates and as such, you don't really believe that you were doing anything wrong. Perhaps you were all perhaps you weren't, but the truth is; that's not the way one treats a lady if she's important to you. If you were guilty of this but you'd still like to win back your girl, then I'm not being funny, but you need to get yourself sorted out.

Essentially, in order to win back your girl, you need to behave in such a way so as to show her that you are capable of understanding her needs and desires. Whatever you do, don't waste her time or your own by trying to win her back under false pretenses. Even if you succeed, it won't last for long, and the next time she leaves, she'll probably be gone for ever.

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