Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Thursday, June 25, 2009

I Broke up with Her, Now I Want my Girlfriend Back

By Ricardo d Argence

Dumped your girlfriend? Now you want her back. You will need to act quickly. But you dont want to make the same mistakes that most guys do when they are trying desperately to get their ex-girlfriends back.

In trying to win her back youve probably have been sending her gifts, expensive gifts. Your way of telling her how much she means to you and a desperate attempt to win her back.

Chances are none of that has worked, because to be honest it's pretty old hat and your girlfriend wants to see something more honest and much more innovative from you.

Its likely you will need to jump some hoops before your dumped ex-girlfriend will consider taking you back. Even if she is desperate to have you back. You did dump her and its going to be difficult to get over how she feels about that.

There is no question or doubt, you may seriously have hurt her pride and feelings. And she will act accordingly. It will depend on how badly you want her back which will determine how prepared you will be to accept the consequences.

You will need to explain truthfully the reasons for your actions. Its best you take some time to conclude your reason for dumping her. Sit down with her and explain honestly your reasons for your actions.

An apology will definitely be in order along with a promise that this will not occur again, ever. If you truly want her back this should be done with sincerity.

Maybe you panicked as you saw the relationship deepening and getting more and more serious. It's a pretty common feature for some guys and to suddenly feel as they are feeling smothered and overwhelmed in a relationship and instead of sitting down with their girlfriends, they panic.

Before you know it, you have a dumped girlfriend and you're living with regret. So perhaps this is the situation that you have to explain to your ex girlfriend. If it is, again, be honest.

What you must guard against in a situation where you were clearly in the wrong and you over reacted, is that you don't become her punching bag. Don't allow her to use you as an emotional vessel into which she pours out all her frustrations and anger just because she can. So doormat out, understanding and apologetic guy in!

Chances that you both have feelings for each other is good and you will get back together again. You may have dumped your girlfriend, but let her know that you sincerely want to start over again and are not reacting to guilt feelings about dumping her.

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