Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Did Your Boyfriend Dump With You? Tips to Recover After a Break Up

By Ricardo d Argence

My boyfriend dumped me and I feel like I just might die! Even though it feels like its the end of the world and you are hurt, remember that it's not going to kill you and you will recover.

A breakup is something that you can and will get over. While it will probably take some time, a little bit of effort, some help, and an attitude adjustment, you can recover. Keep in mind, that while you are upset that your boyfriend dumped you doesn't mean that your life is over. Life goes on and you need to prepare yourself.

Getting over the fact that your boyfriend broke up with you might not be simple, but it is far from impossible. You are going to have to commit to picking yourself up, dusting yourself off, and moving along.

The alternative to moving on would be to remain in the miserable world you are in. If this isn't the life you want for yourself then you will have to do whatever is necessary to pull yourself out of it. It will take some work to climb out of the dark hole, but the effort will pay off.

Don't be afraid to ask for help but be careful where it is that you ask for it. If you are battling depression because of it, seek professional help. This doesn't mean that you are going crazy, depression is something that many people deal with so don't worry about people judging you. Do try to beat it, though.

It may be, though, that you have good friends or family that can help you out while you are trying to deal with that fact that my boyfriend dumped me. Be careful to not lay too much on these people, though, and when you ask for advice, follow it.

If you are always complaining about your situation and your life, but never follow up on the advice they give you, they may become very frustrated with you. They will start to grow tired of your complaints and start avoiding you.

You should also consider re-thinking the way you are looking at your situation. Take a minute and look at the situation from a different perspective. While you may be thinking of it as the end of the world, another person may look at it differently.

Try hard to find another perspective to look at your situation from. Determine the good about you and what you have to offer another person. What are your good qualities? There will definitely be another person out there that will appreciate you just as you are. Just wait for this person to show up.

While you are waiting for the person of your dreams, work on improving yourself. Think of something that you have always wanted to do and devote yourself to it. If there is a non-romantic activity that you have wanted to achieve and just do it. If there is anything that you want to improve about your life, now is the time to take action.

The end result will be a happier you. Once you have found that happiness, it will become magnetic and draw in the person that you dream of, the one that makes you smile and makes you feel like you belong. It will make you look back on this dark time in your life when you were crying because my boyfriend dumped me and see it as one of the best things that ever happened to you.

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