Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Monday, November 1, 2010

The Relationship Between Strong Emotions And Lump That Develops In The Throat

By Elizabeth Kelly

Just when one is about to have an emotional outburst there is one common feeling that we all seem to get called a lump in the throat. It is also the very same feeling that we experience when we just before we shout, yell or cry. It makes it difficult for us to say what we want to say and also to breathe normally. So how can we explain this lump?

This lump that we feel is not a physical one but it is more of a physical sensation. The throat becomes faced with the dilemma of carrying out two tasks simultaneously.

When we are emotional or feel like bursting into tears, this sensation comes about due to the fight or flight state that has kicked in. this state is triggered by our fear or anger stressing the body just before an emotional outburst. The heart is forced to pump faster due to this stress.

To give the heart the air that it needs to keep pumping as such, the lungs have to take in more air. This requires that the vocal chords stretch some more for us to take in as much air as possible with each breath.

A valve like opening in the middle of our larynx controls how much air will go into our lungs as we breathe in. this hole closes temporarily when we are trying to swallow something and it is called the glottis.

The work of controlling how the glottis opens or closes is done by our vocal chords. For instance, when one decides to scream then the vocal chords will demand that the glottis be at its widest and the opposite when we are trying to swallow.

The lumpy sensation occurs due to the deep breaths that we are taking. The glottis is forced to open its largest.

On the other hand, when it comes to crying, we normally try as hard as we can to swallow the tears that are forthcoming. This leads to the compression of the glottis. The simultaneous compression and expansion of the vocal chords at the same time therefore leads to the so called lump in our throats.

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Sin And Existentialism - Nietzsche's Slave Morality

By David von Walland

Nietzsche attacked Christians, as symbolized by the Priestly class in his works, because they tricked the Noble class into submission. Superior strength and domination characterize the Nobles' morality while the Priestly class promoted humility, meagerness, non-violence, etc. Nietzsche claimed that the Christian morality, a slave morality, is killing us. The Christians brainwashed the Nobles by forcing them to believe in their own morality, namely calling strength, aggression, and violence bad and humility, love, and peace good. This in effect revealed the Priests' "will to power." Nietzsche correctly stated that slave morality is killing everyone in light of his Proto-Existentialism, however, the claim that some are violently aggressive while others are not does not sufficiently negate the will to power theory.

When we are born into this world, Nietzsche insists, we enter into a world depraved by slave morality. This morality, mainly the fault of the Christians, teaches the world to suppress their wrong or "sinful" desires. Although conservative Christians would never admit this, they have created a law on top of the Law. In fact, they too have become Pharisees, the very people against whom Jesus strongly spoke. This list of "do's and don'ts" usually consists of don't drink, don't smoke, don't watch R-rated movies, don't play cards, don't cuss, etc. and do go to church, do have a "quiet time," do pray, etc. In fact, Scripture at best vaguely warrants these commandments, many of which are man-made.

We begin to develop this morality and realize the impossibility of upholding these moral codes. The Christians despairs over his failure as a human being and constantly beckons God's grace. Nietzsche says that the battle lies in this tension. In a battle between right and wrong, a person easily loses confidence. The Priestly class wins the battle here because the Nobles allow guilt to overcome strength. Hermann Hesse's Demian illustrates this well. The protagonist, Sinclair, struggles throughout his childhood with the Christian sense of morality. Sinclair's friend, Demian, describes him as bearing "the mark of cain." The Biblical story of Cain and Abel explains that Cain murdered his brother Abel for offering a better sacrifice to God. Thus, God cast Cain out of the land and to bear a mark that all the nations would recognize as evil. One wishes to harness these ulterior motives once he recognizes the "evil" side to his personality, not smother it.

Existentialism really helps Nietzsche's argument here. Existentialism involves both a primacy on existence and radical free will (or indeterminism). Jean-Paul Sartre, for example, described existentialism as existence preceding essence. Meaning, man's makes his own destiny as opposed to man fitting some pre-determined destiny or essence. Nancy Holstrom, in a similar vein, describes a continuum of desire. A first order desire such as "I want pancakes," may result in eating pancakes. However, a second order volition "Pancakes are not healthy" may contest the first. If the second order volition causes one to not eat pancakes, it becomes the first order volition. Likewise, the Nobles can never let their second order volition of evil overcome their fear of and complacency with the Christian morality. Since the Nobles will never challenge the Priestly motives, they are not truly free, and cannot determine "man," or their lives.

Nietzsche clearly proves that all men will to power, whether it be through aggressive or passive-aggressive means. Hesse might suggest that those who aggressively will to power bear the mark of cain while the others will to power in more subtle ways. And Nietzsche recognizes that some do it in violent or passive manners, but it is clear that all will to power. The Noble would will to power by his strength and ability to dominate while the Priest wills to power by means of deception and trickery. It is through trickery, in fact, that the Priest brings the Noble down to his level, engraining a slave morality, and effectively conquering the Noble. If only the Noble would harness his "evil" side, then he may evade this Christian trap.

The slave morality, then, kills everyone because no one may effectively determine his own life, or existence. We are left to follow the status quo of conservative moralism, and when we battle with that morality, we fall prey to "sin" and reinforce the normative pietism. If one simply embraced his freedom, he would realize his own god-like power, and also understand fully his past lack of power. All will to power but those successful ones currently do so only through trickery and a rejection of their own humanity.

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Sunday, October 31, 2010

Procrastination As The Worst Enemy To Getting Things Done

By Paul Stuart

To run a productive and successful business calls for efficiency and meticulous planning on the part of the owner in order to expand and boost its services or the products. There are a few tips that one can use to avoid falling into the usual productivity traps. You can sidestep them completely and increase the productivity levels by far.

Procrastination: When tempted a lot to keep postponing the harder work you have to do for later, and think you should have a go at the simpler tasks first. This is a bad idea.

Procrastination tends to kill motivation because you will keep rescheduling the tougher tasks which will make them appear tougher than they really are. You need to form the habit of dealing with tasks as soon as they land on your desk as fast as you can without choosing; but the only priority should be the order of which ones are needed first.

Non Prioritization of work: It is very wrong to have the mentality that all tasks are equal and it does not matter however way you go about tackling them even without following any particular order; so long as you are busy working.

A rush begins when you suddenly realize that there are some tasks which were needed earlier than the others and that some were actually more important than the rest. This is why successful and productive people must prioritize work according to their importance and urgency.

Checking the email first thing in the morning: You might be thinking that it is a very wise move to first check the emails to see what is new every morning, but this is not what is recommended as fresh mail tends to distract you from the original schedules.

To keep off this trap, you should stick to the schedule and put in a whole hour of solid work before checking the mail each morning.

Some people tune their email program alerts to come on every time a new mail arrives, well what you will need to succeed is to turn that alarm off because it only serves as a distraction to you. Just stick meticulously to the tasks at hand and clear them all in the fastest time possible. This is the best way to grow and improve our business.

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Broken Relation Grief - You Can Overcome The 5 Five Stages

By Louis Cruz

Broken relationship grief and emotional grief are not much different. In fact they are about the same since emotional grief also has five stages. They both consist of the loss of someone special. Losing somebody you really love is a very hard event in life. But we all must at some point in the road of life encounter this experience. So knowing the five stages and becoming familiar with the stage in which you are will let you conquer and allow you to endure this hard time.

Denial

An attitude of denial ordinarily occurs after a close loving relationship is broken. A relationship that existed for years and out of the blue is finished could be very traumatic. You might one day come out of work and expect your ex to be outside waiting for you when you then recall that you broke up and that your ex is not coming.. And possibly never coming back to pick you up or meet you at work. This may be a difficult matter to accept. So you tell yourself, "Is this really happening", or "this cannot be".

Anger

Anger is the next emotion that we experience in this second stage. All stages are important but this stage is delicate. During this stage you are at the risk of manifesting your anger in the wrong way and to the wrong people. You may get angry at God. But believe me it is not his fault. Crazy things may go through your mind. You may think of getting even with your ex boy or girlfriend or even rejecting the people who so dearly love you and try to support and comfort you in this delicate time. This is definitely a stage where you need to make an effort to think before you talk and dedicate much time to reflection.

Bargaining

This is a very crucial stage. What makes this stage difficult is that the pain is making you wish that nothing is happening and that everything will go back to the way it was before. You wish it to be normal once more. So you start bargaining with your ex making promises hoping that you may convince your ex to come back to you. You may also end up making promises to God hoping that he will assist you to get everything you want. Or perform some miracle or something like that. You get false hopes in this stage. You are still trying to hang on to fake hopes and still suffering from denial.

Depression

At this stage you are finally realizing and feeling that all is lost and that there are no possibilities of you getting back together with your ex. So you sink into the stage of depression. You cannot see a clear future. You do not know what the future will hold for you and you begin to experience sadness and emotions of bitterness and frustration. The emotions are overwhelming and cause you to feel sorry for yourself. You also feel defenseless. All these emotions are in their peak in this stage. Of all stages this is a time to look for support in the persons who love you. It may they be family or friends. It is important to not lose faith completely. If you are spiritual, look for help from heaven and use all means possible to overcome this stage of depression. Understand that as time goes by, you will overcome this stage and realize that the future is really not that dim. There are still many beautiful things in life and beautiful people to meet. This takes us to the next stage.

Acceptance

You have gone through some serious stages of grief due to a broken relationship. But now you have fortunately come to the stage of acceptance. Despite the fact that the majority of the previous feelings still exist but you are not combating a great deal against destructive thoughts and false thoughts of hope. This stage of acceptance is not a stage of resignation. Put simply, you just have not given up on life. Quite the opposite, you now accept that you will not be sharing your life with your ex and reset your mind to accept this new life and realized that there is a future without your ex. You are driven to develop your goals gradually so that you can insure a bright future. You also recognize that your broken relationship is in the past and that you must go forward.

As you go through these stages you will finally get to the phase in which you will appreciate the things you experienced through this tough time. Continue to look for support in good friends and always have someone you can talk to. Pray and meditate a lot.

Please remember that countless others are coping with your same challenge. You are not alone. You can and will make it through this broken relationship grief.

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Saturday, October 30, 2010

What Are The Benefits Of Life Regression Therapy

By Simon Bateman

Life regression therapy is a known and well-established therapy which is used to deal with different types of traumas in ones life. Psychotherapists are known to use hypnosis and delusion to make their patients recall experiences and incidents from their past life.

There are some practitioners who use life regression therapy to find a solution to current-life problems of their patients. They ask questions that help patients bring back memories of past lives. The patients are able to bring back to memory their identity and situations.

It is also believed that many a times, past life is one of the main reason for their present psychological problems and therefore life regression therapy comes in handy to help these patients.

Life regression therapies are used by many physicians to relieve and treat people of their stress and help them in living a normal life by getting rid of their past life problems. Many people even suffer from high of levels of anxiety and even nightmares. This therapy helps people to get rid of their obstacles and also the blocks to their inner joy and happiness.

Also you could refer many books on life regression therapy as well. About a few years back, people did not really believe in life regression therapy and its techniques. But then more and more people are finding positive results to their problems by using these therapies and this branch of science have also started gaining popularity slowly.

Some books about life regression therapy also reveals that how ones past and present lives are inter-related and few practitioners use this therapy to the bridge gap between past and present life and improve the future of their patients.

Life regression therapy is used by many physicians to cure patients not only with their psychological problems but also cure them of with their physical and emotional pains. They use this therapy to gradually progress their patient's life to a happy and healthy future.

Many people may still not believe in beneficial aspects of past life regression therapy. They disregard this technique as mere fantasy or delusion and do not have faith in its effectiveness.

A past life regression is generally undertaken by people who are in pursuit of some spiritual experience or even in a psychotherapeutic setting to get rid of some problems. Staunch religious people rather have a strong faith in past life regression while few others just take it as another thought.

The life regression therapy technique sessions involves few vivid and realistic experiences. Sometimes, these techniques use two of the senses of the patients. The senses can either be vision, hearing, or physical sensations or even a combination of both.

At other times, these experiences may involve only a few subtle images and feelings. In any case, they are enough to form a conclusion about what the person is going through. Most life regression sessions involve only the facilitator and the experience. The session begins with a discussion and is followed by regression.

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Friday, October 29, 2010

Things You Need To Do And Not Do For A Successful Cosmic Order

By Helen Bush

Understanding the basics of how to do cosmic order is all what is required for achieving desired results. This kind of thing is natural for many walks of life. If this procedure of cosmic order is the first time you hearing about, then read this article and it will not take you long to find your connection with the universe all over again. Mentioned below are some easy tips for you to understand how to achieve your desires.

Be very sure and accurate on what you desire for or what you want. Let's take an example, if you want a digital camera for yourself, then you should be very specific which brand and what model you desire for. Just thinking about a digital camera without any further elaborate details will not do. Do you want to become an artist or do want a job in a corporate field.

Never talk about your cosmic orders. A person needs to have a firm belief with their positive experiences with cosmic orders, only then it is advised to talk about their experiences and help others achieve success with their own desired orders.

Cosmic order is all about being positive or living positively. This is how you will able to succeed in whatever you have desire for to come true. Do give any space to negative thoughts. If for once you feel negative about your desires, it is sure that the process ends there. It is really important that you should remain cheerful and positive throughout.

Now, here are a few things which you need to do: Believing in Law of Attraction is the most vital thing and the cosmic order has to be very specific. For example, if your want to gain weight and tired of being skinny then you should be specific on how much you want to gain. Whatever you desire for, be specific and you will hundred percent receive it.

This process of cosmic order of being positive and living as if you have already achieved your desires come with benefits like, positivity is all around you with people full of joy, your work stress becomes low and you tend to be happy and gay every now and then.

Always remember that when the actual time comes when you receive what you had actually desired, don't forget to thank the universe. This is really important, even though you won't get a reply but still you need to thank the law of universe so that the process of cosmic order remains beneficial for you in future too.

In short, be positive and never be surrounded with negative thoughts. Stay focused, you should know exactly what you desire for. Never give up in the process of cosmic order and at the end, don't forget to thank the law of universe.

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Understand Cosmic Ordering

By Allison McIssaak

Cosmic ordering refers to a belief that persons can use their wishes to attach with the cosmos and make those wishes turn into a reality.

Cosmic Ordering theory works in the following way - you take a decision on what you want and when you want it.

A declaration is made to the cosmos after the decision taken by is finalized. Then you go ahead and make an announcement of this decision to the cosmos the way you like to; this could be simply placing an order or with some rituals with quick thoughts. There are no limits of your desires or to cosmic ordering. You can ask for anything that you desire whether it is for professional reasons or for personal desires. The only requirement that is essential her is that you be open, positive and at ease.

Now the question that arises is that where or to whom exactly does the order go? Well there is a belief that to some degree the order is placed on yourself as you have an influence on the reality of your expectations. A close look at some basics of cosmic ordering is as below:

Firstly you must know what it is that you desire. Be aware of the real desires and know what you really want.

In order to understand your desires correctly and clearly spend some time with yourself. The moment you gain clarity about your desires and wishes you must begin to imagine them. Also you must try to find out what feelings are associated with this desire - good or bad?

This act of making and placing your decision becomes an order. So it's essential that you desire the right thing that makes you happy.

After this step just let it go. Once you have placed your cosmic order, you're done. Now you can focus on something else, something that makes you feel good. You need to be sure to keep a light, casual, happy feeling about it after your cosmic order is completed.

Cosmic Ordering is now the in New Age faith. The basic standard in this is that no matter what you place an order and your desire will come true with cosmic order.

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