Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Thursday, October 21, 2010

Unusual Gifts From The Pope's Visit

By Tom Doerr

When Blair was still an Anglican but took communion in a Catholic church, the then archbishop of Westminster, Cardinal Basil Hume, wrote him a letter of reproach, saying that non-Catholics were forbidden to do so. Blair's response to it was to suggest that Jesus Christ at any rate would have approved of his action - a clear rejection of ecclesiastical authority. I still suspect him of being a bit of a protestant fifth columnist in the Catholic fold.

The event is surrounded by security, terror threats and controversy but what has been overlooked is the amount of people jumping on the bandwagon and capitalising on the visit with souvenirs and commemorative gifts. But as you would expect, there is a lot of junk on offer which has been designed to make a cheap buck out of all the pontiff's supporters. Street vendors are offering baseball caps for up to 20. And many are flogging pilgrims t-shirts with the option to customise with the name of their church.

Westminster Cathedral's gift shop is stocking specially made plates, photo's books and crosses for the event. But there are also very many bizarre souvenirs available including a 'popener' bottle opener, a Vatican city lighter and a remote control popemobile. Many gift shops are offering silicone bracelets similar to those of the 'livestrong' trend and catholic Swarovski jewellery. However the Catholic Church has rejected claims that the papal visit is being commercialised.

The Pope has come under fire from activists and a potential terrorist plot was uncovered in which 5 men were arrested in London. There has also been much controversy surrounding the Popes address of the issue of child abuse amongst the catholic clergy. The ex-Hitler youth has also likened atheists to Nazis, a comment which has caused a riot in a society gradually moving away from religion.

There are four photographs on the shortlist for the National Portrait Gallery's annual photographic prize which were reproduced, one of them only in part, in yesterday's Guardian. The one of which only a woman's face and top half were shown omitted a part showing her genitals, and the three other entries were of two drug-addicted twins, one obese young woman, and a 14-year-old American girl riding back in triumph from a hunting expedition with a dead deer flung over her horse. Do photographs have to be disturbing, or feature controversial themes, for them to qualify for awards? It never used to be so.

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Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Easy Methods To Win Your Lover Back

By Anna Gray

Before contacting your ex and telling her that you want her back, think about what happened in your relationship. Keep in mind that as long as you don't realize your mistakes, the same thing will happen over and over again. Remember every argument you had and try to see if it was you who was at fault. If it was you, think carefully and try to find the correct way of handling that situation. Doing this will help you realize your mistakes and will allow you to accept and move on to the next stage of your relationship.

The usual problem when couples break up is lack of communication. If you really love your girlfriend then you would do anything just to keep lines open. You will never be too busy for her. You can call her up and ask her if you can go out to meet up. Make sure that you get your act right once she's there. It pays to practice saying what you need to say if you are easily confused. Upon meeting her, let her talk and don't be the guy who rambles away. If she sees that you're willing to change and that you are honest and sincere about your apology, she might change her mind and give you a second chance.

Acknowledging your errors is one way to show your ex-girlfriend that you really want to fix everything. It may be hard for your ego and pride, but learning when and when not to lower your pride is essential for every relationship to work.

One reason men and their girlfriends break up is because of bad habits. This will be the ultimate sacrifice for you. Are you willing to give up something you really love to do just to show her how much you love her? For example cutting down on smoking just because she asked to is a big step in your life. Now if you really want to have her back, then you will try to quit.

Women love men who are successful. Showing your ex that you can strive hard and be successful in life may make her realize that you are worth getting back to. Being successful is a very difficult thing to do and you really have to work hard to earn that title.

Follow these tips and for sure you and your ex will be back together in no time. Once the two of you are back together, please don't go back to who you were. Prove to her that she was right in taking the risk of getting back with you.

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Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Two Practices To Help Boost One's Level Of Assertiveness

By Jervis Dickinson

It is very simple. If you are not sure yourself, nobody is ever going to agree to you. Being assertive is an asset. It is good to be assertive.

Two strategies are there to help individual become more assertive. One approach deals with your outwardly demeanor. These techniques has to with how to voice your opinion and how you argue in a situation.

The second one relates to your inner self and your inner confidence. It has to do with your self-perception. What do YOU think of yourself? The problem is that the majority of techniques work on your outer self, and how you deal with people. These techniques are of no help unless you have solid inner foundation.

Only a few work on your inner self. If you have weak inner core, then your outwardly confidence would not get you anywhere.

However, if you are in control your emotions, then you will be able to persuade others better. Your arguments will be logical.

In case, you are anxious and unsure, and you are not feeling in a situation, it is better to postpone the discussion to some other time. This way you will be allowed sometime to calm yourself, and work on your arguments.

Hence, if you want to become assertive, the best way to do this is to change your inner self. Indulge in positive self-talks.

Tell yourself repeatedly that you are worthy of everything. This will prevent you from shying away in challenging situations.

You can do that by doing positive self-talks. Say to yourself that you are in right when you make those requests and that you are good enough to be values.

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Relating To The Concept Of Survival Of The Fittest

By Michael Swan

If there is something that is constantly coming and going, it is the seasons. As they come and go, with them, lives constantly change. There is no denying therefore that seasons affect us in one way or the other to change. The only way to achieve success in this world thus, is to make sure that you perfect the art of adaptation.

It is only human to adapt to what circumvents you. The law of survival of the fittest rests on the pillars of adapting to the current habitat.

Much of the earth's population lives for the moment forgetting that life is constantly changing. Even when we take a look at the simplest of our bodily processes, digestion, the hearts beating or the body's immune system, they are always subconsciously changing. This is all pure proof that there is only one way to success; adaptation.

The best way to tackle anything is to constantly adjust your thinking to what surrounds you. If this was false, by following old instructions to the letter one would never get results that were anything less than perfect.

No one can do this however because such instructions may have applied yesterday but they did not factor in the new conditions of today. The environment today is not the same one of yesterdays.

Explaining survival for the fittest cannot be done without one understanding the concept of adaptation. Success can only come to you as quickly as you are able to adapt to your environment.

The only outcome of not heeding these words is death or migration. The business internet money realm is not any different. It is constantly changing and so must you and your methods.

Charles Darwin nailed this down to the letter. This is what he said 'It is not the strongest who survive. It is not even the most intelligent who survive. It is those that adapt the fastest to their surroundings who make it.

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Sunday, October 17, 2010

Digging Further Into The Subconscious Part Of Your Mind

By Albert Watson

Ever ask yourself a question and come up with too many answers or no answer at all? This can be frustrating and usually there's too much going on around us to make the answer clear.

Sit down in a quiet place with paper and pen and write the question on the top slowly three times while you say it out load to yourself. It can be any question, "What will happen to me in a year?"

Now write the first thing that comes to mind, it can be words or a drawing of a ship, just whatever comes first. Just like those ink blot tests they give.

There's no way to mess up, or be wrong so don't worry and don't try to force the answer. If drawing is the answer you feel then draw, just put what comes to mind first.

If you are right handed try using your left hand, go deeper into the subconscious part of your mind. This allows the inner child to be freed and come out in your writing.

Don't stop until you feel ready to. Your intuition is free and guiding you, no matter how long keep going until you feel it's time to stop. Remember there's no right or wrong to this.

When you finish and feel you've done all you needed to take a break, close your eyes, and reboot. Allow yourself the time to let go of your writing and then come back with new eyes and receive your message.

You just gave yourself an intuitive reading it holds answers you never knew where there. It can help you find solutions you may not have found consciously. Now you may know what course of action you need to take or you may have just found out something about yourself you didn't know was there. Whatever it holds for you trust your intuition, it is an untapped power that usually is the key you need. Intuition is that deep down gut feeling, the first answer you usually over look because of logic.

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Did Your Boyfriend Dump You? Tips To Recover After A Break Up

By Luv More

If you feel like the world is ending and you just might die because your boyfriend dumped you remember that this feeling will pass. Even though you are really in pain, it isn't going to kill you.

This is something that you can and will get over. It will take some work, some help, some readjusting in the way you think, and some time. Be sure that just because you are upset that my boyfriend dumped me doesn't mean that life stops, life goes on. Be ready for it.

Getting over the fact that your boyfriend dumped isn't a simple thing to do but it is definitely not impossible. You just have to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on.

The alternative means that you will be stuck wallowing in your own misery. If that is no life that you want to have then do what it takes to get out of it. It takes work to climb back out of the pit but the work is worth it.

Don't be afraid to get help when you need it, but be careful about where you get the help. If you are seriously depressed, you should probably seek the help of a professional. This doesn't mean you are losing your mind; depression is a condition that many people are dealing with. Don't worry about others judging you; get the help you need.

You may want to turn to your close friends or family members that can help you deal with the fact that your boyfriend dumped you. Try not to put too much on these people though and if you ask for their advice they will expect you to follow it.

If you are constantly complaining about your life and the situation but aren't following up on what advice is given, they are going to reach a point that you don't want. They are going to get tired of you and cut you off or seriously consider it.

You also need to re-frame how you are looking at your situation. Look at if from a different perspective or angle. While you may be thinking its the end of you life, when you view it from another angle you will see it differently.

Try to find that other person's perspective. Try to see what good it is that you have to offer someone. What are your best qualities? For sure there is going to be someone out there who will appreciate them. Wait for them to come along.

While you are waiting, find some way to improve yourself. Find something that you have long dreamed about doing and throw your life into it. If there is something non-romantic that you have longed to achieve in life, pursue it. Do you want to make yourself better in anyway, now is the time to do it.

The end result will be a happier you. Once you have found that happiness, it will become magnetic and draw in the person that you dream of, the one that makes you smile and makes you feel like you belong. It will make you look back on this dark time in your life when you were crying because my boyfriend dumped me and see it as one of the best things that ever happened to you.

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Saturday, October 16, 2010

Why Do I Get Frequent Headaches?

By Rose Williams

Lots of us have to live with headaches, which we have for no apparent reason. Some of these headache types may happen once and then we may live for many years before we experience them again. Other types of headaches occur far more often. These types of headaches are known as 'frequent headaches'.

Frequent headaches in general are tension headaches. Other times, frequent headaches are the result of taking too much over-the-counter (OTC) medications. This sort of frequent headache is also called 'rebound headaches'. While it is safe to take the recommended dosage to treat headaches, rebound headaches occur because the dosage amount has been exceeded.

Generally, one of the ways to stop the pain that are frequent headaches, is to slowly reduce the amount of method that you are taking. People who may find this step difficult, ought to consulting with their GP, who can help to find the optimum method to accomplish this without making their headaches or other condition worse.

Other than overdosing on headache medication, there are also other factors that can start a bout of frequent headaches. These can be excessive amounts of smoking and drinking lots of alcohol beverages. Reducing your alcohol intake to a moderate level can help with reducing the pain of your frequent headaches.

Since smoking any form of tobacco can increase your chances of getting frequent headaches, it is best to stop smoking altogether. While it might sound easy to control these frequent headache triggers, you may actually need professional to help you to reduce your frequent headaches.

Therefore, when you consult with your doctor you should find out about headache clinics and if they have the facilities to assist you with your rebound and/or frequent headaches. People who prefer to deal with controlling their headache medicine themselves can start by reducing the dosage little by little.

When your body can cope with that reduction, you can lower the amount a bit more. Should you feel that the headaches are becoming overwhelming, you have the option of taking cortisone to help tolerate the pain of the headaches while your body slowly adjusts to the new regime.

As frequent headaches are probably caused more by the overdose of headache tablets, it would be a good idea for you to take the medication only when you really need to. This way you can manage your dose of the medicine that makes you get other headaches in addition to what you first started the pain medication for.

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