Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Friday, February 25, 2011

Ways To Deal With A Breakup Faster

By Kelly Stamford


Everyone you come across has likely gone through a break up at one point or another in life. They are known to be painful. There is a heavy emotional burden that comes with a breakup. The loneliness is also unbearable but in times like that, one should take hid that friends are there.

A breakup ordeal can leave one really wounded internally from the hardship. The best thing you should do if you happen to go through that is to intervene with the following ideas to arrest the pain.

Accepting to swallow the bitter peal and accepting that there has been a breakup is a big decision, to be frank. It is only until you learn to accept things that you will learn to keep on advancing with your own life. If it was beyond your control, get used to it and move on.

You need to take the positives from all break ups. You must have learnt a certain lesson the moment you broke up with your ex. Use this to strengthen your understanding of the next relationship you will get into. It will boost your chances of avoiding certain goofs.

There will come random bouts of self hatred. People find a lot of solace in blaming things they did or characters inherent to them. This is not what you should be thinking about right now. Avoid pointing fingers.

You can stay out of your ex's way if need be. Many a times, you will be tempted to just wish it all didn't happen. You wish you could be holding each other once again. Resist that urge that comes, making you want to even go and look at his house from afar.

Turn on the creativity and go out to conquer new possibilities that you have never bothered before. Engage in different and new activity.

It is wise to take to the pen if you want to keep the emotions in the cage. Writing after a break up is known to be therapy. If you have all those ravaging feelings of animosity within you, loosen their leashes by writing them a journal.




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Thursday, February 24, 2011

Decoding The Meaning Of Dreams

By Jack Wogan


For hundreds of years, dreams have been wrapped in some sort of mystery veil, as people used to refer to them with respect or fear. Some cultures have considered dreams to be prophecies, others, demonic possessions. Within the last centuries, the language of dreams has significantly evolved, and the concept of soul wandering the dream world has been replaced with the inner self, and the divine side of it - with the collective subconscious.

While dreaming, we interact with a lot of people, places, things, etc. A dream is like a hallucination, a fantastic trip that you make while you are asleep, a parallel world where many things can happen, things that we wish for or not. A dream is like a state of mind which sets us free or tries to distract us from the ordinary routine of our life. The interpretations with respect to the reasons why we are dreaming varied a lot for the last century.

The concept of modern psychology sees the "dream untangling" as a task to be done within the individual context. In the respective dreams, images and symbols appear which are strongly connected and specific to the person dreaming. Therefore, only he can untangle it and pull out the meaning of his dream.

Play with the words and phrases, as symbols can evolve in different ways and can be understood differently in many cultures. The symbols are something that your subconscious is already aware of, but you deny accepting, believing, admitting or realizing. Remembering all the details of your dream is like opening a gate to your inner self. Keeping a diary of your dreams is not totally nonsense. It's a justification for lying down, for a while, and focus, without feeling guilty, on yourself and your actions and feelings. The dream can be defined from many perspectives. It can be seen as a superstition, as some cultures, for example, consider it dangerous to try to wake someone dreaming, as there is a risk of losing the soul in the world of dreams.

From ancient times, people believed that the future can be foreseen while dreaming, as it works like a sign. In ancient Greece, the dream was seen as a method of healing any disease. Nowadays, nevertheless, the dream is perceived as an extension of the wakefulness. It is like your thoughts are continued in your dreams, but they sometimes get funny shapes, as the sensorial functions are reduced while sleeping.




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How Significant Is Optimism?

By Wendy R. Branch


Here are things to help you make it through this tough life. The first thing to do is to find the things that you love to do and make it your career. Most of us are in search for a job to find a stable income and later on regret when it is not beneficial anymore. If you find the things you do and make a living out of it, you will never see it as a job but more of a hobby.

Be the worker bee and work hard in everything. The rewards you receive for working hard will be satisfying enough. Always give everything you have when it comes to life and you will surely be rewarded for your hard work.

Smile and others will smile back. When you initiate a smile, you will show yourself as an open and approachable person. This way, people will easily be your friend and you will have no problem dealing with people.

Be thankful for the gifts that you received. Whether you have nothing or you have everything, appreciating the things that have come your way will make you feel satisfied with life and when you are contented, you are happy.

Do a volunteer job and you will see a different side of life. When you fill in a volunteer work, you get to see the other side of life which is cruel and sad. It is in these experiences that you get to serve people who are in need of your help that you will come to realize that you are blessed.

There are thousands or even millions of people who are hungry and homeless right now and while they are suffering from stomach pains and cold at night, you still find a way to complain about why the soup is cold or how come you are living in a shabby apartment.

Learn to take good care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Jog around the neighborhood. Enjoy the sceneries. Take a puzzle or play the crossword. Find a new friend or go to a club.

Get into the positive light rather than dwelling on negative thoughts. The more you think of negative thoughts, the more it consumes you and make you a horrible person. There are two sides of the coin, one leads you to a dark path while the other leads you to a place of growth. The only challenge for you is where to find that road.




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Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Fire Emergency - Ideas And Procedures

By Jack Fabbro


It is very important that you know the basics of fire prevention especially with regards to your property and within your own home. It is a good idea that one or more members of your family knows how to put out a fire when it happens. Other than that, everyone inside the house should know how to prevent a fire.

Always stay in the kitchen while you are cooking. If you have things to do outside the kitchen, do it first before you prepare your food and cook them. Leaving the kitchen to do something else can burn your food and you might end up having a big ball of fire within the kitchen.

Keep things such as hand towels and other flammable materials away from the fire while you are cooking. They might easily catch fire and would most likely cause panic within the kitchen. Store them away from the fire as far away as possible.

When buying for heaters or appliances, look for automatic off features or timers that will help you shut the appliance off even if you are not around. This will make your home safer and make you feel more comfortable when you are away.

Inform the entire family about your plans when fire happens. Agree to stay calm in case of fire inside the home and plan an escape route. Practice drills if you can.

If you plan on grilling, make sure that it is ten feet away from your house or any flammable materials. Keep the children away from the grill even after you are done grilling as there are still fire causing materials left inside the grill.

Have a professional clean your kitchen especially your stove and other heating materials to avoid mishaps and cause fire. Make sure that your appliances are checked first before you use them again and that they are still good to use.

Half of all fire accidents happen at night when people are sleeping. Take note to plug out all appliances that might be very hazardous to your home. If not, do some fire hazard checks before you go to bed at night.




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The Importance Of Having Some Sense Of Motivation In Achieving Success

By Elizabeth W. Mcinnis


Motivation is varied for different people and comes at various levels. Different people are motivated by different factors and vary from person to person. Each person may be excited and motivated to different levels based on their interest and in the end what matters is that the goal should be reached and achieved.

Quite a few people require motivation to perform certain basic tasks. Certain people require motivation just to leave their bed and get ready in the motivation. Never the less it may run out by afternoon. Forces that promote motivation are different in different people.

Positive people on the other hand find it easy to leave bed as they are highly motivated and this could sometimes work as a boon.

Motivation comes and goes and is quite difficult to be maintained at a high level. Every person around the world struggles with this problem and quite often you are not able to see the light at the end of the tunnel which decreases motivation levels.

You may seem to lose focus quite often and not see the point of carrying on with your work. Difficulty in commitment to work and complete boredom accompanied by lack luster performances and laziness are quite common.

You must understand why you need motivation in order to get properly motivated. Otherwise you may lose track and not end up finishing what you started.

If that high level of motivation is what you desire you must always make it a point to be in a positive atmosphere and around positive people. Hence these people will have effects on your motivation levels because they keep encouraging you along your path. They also support your advantages which make you feel even better.

To achieve success in any field it is very important that you work hard and in a planned manner. This success does not come cheap and requires a good amount of dedication and hard work. To do this your motivation levels must be high and you should concentrate on your goal ahead.




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Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Ways To Easily Recover From A Split Up

By Dawn Williams


In a relationship, we sometimes feel great happiness but on the other hand, we also feel the great sadness it brings when relationships end. This is where each and every person is different. We all feel the pain but there are some people who tend to go on with their lives while others have a harder time coping.

You may feel like you are alone in this world but there are people who are willing to help you. These are your friends and your family. Plus, with these tips, you will surely get your life back in no time.

No kind of explanation or logic you put into it will bring everything back. It's natural to deny the breakup at first but the longer you stay in this phase the harder it will be to move forward. As complicated the situation may be, you have to accept that what you once have is now gone.

Learn from this experience and start it with loving yourself again. Instead of staying on a corner the whole day, crying yourself to sleep and listen to sad songs while you're at it, you should transform this negativity into something very productive.

Blame is something you should take out of your vocabulary when dealing with pain. You may want to blame yourself for doing such things but no one should be blamed for your broken relationships. Look into the brighter side and see what is in store for you other than blaming yourself.

To fully grasp the fact that you need to get over someone, stop trying to communicate with everyone he knows or every friend of his. You do still feel the need to talk to his friends but try to understand that the more you do this the more you prolong your path to getting over.

Write down how you feel right now at this moment. You may want to have a journal and a pen every time you go out and just write down everything you feel. If you are hurt then right down what made you feel it and how you overcame it. Then you can easily read it again and see how you have dealt with it.

Gather your friends and enjoy a good time together. You can pick up a new hobby or you can rejoin your basketball team or any sport that you like. Sweating it all out can do wonders to your body and soul.




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How To Start Healing A Broken Heart

By Suzanne D. Baker


Healing a broken heart is not possible if you do not let go of the pain you are going through.

There is no exact method to follow on how to heal a broken heart but you can always start the healing process.

Some people find writing break-up poems very effective. By expressing how they feel and letting out their emotions, it helps relieve them of the pain and allow the healing process to happen.

Some people who keep journals find this very effective as they can put down into words all the pain they are going through. Writing is a perfect way to start healing.

Others would think of getting into a rebound relationship as a form of getting over a broken relationship. This is definitely a bad idea as it will cause you to think of your ex all the more.

If you are still hoping to have your ex back and weighing the possibility, here are some tips you need to consider.

First, never cling to him. Although this can be very hard especially if you truly love him, yet, men do not like clingy women. They need a breathing room. The more you hold on to him, the more he wants to leave.

Through letting go, he might begin to see what he is really missing in life. This may be very difficult on your part, but it is a risk that you have to take. If you keep holding on to him, one way or the other, you will eventually lose him.

You may wonder how long should you wait for him? The more you resist the urge to call him, the sooner he might realize your worth.

Finally, if he does not come back, then it is a sign that your relationship is not meant to be. It is better that you realize it now than waiting a longer time to discover the truth. Again, it can be painful but you will survive.




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