Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Tuesday, June 15, 2010

A Quick Analysis Of Candide By Voltaire

By Aaron Miller

Candide is a picaresque comedy and social satire by the great man of French letters, Voltaire, proceeding with Job-like determination from one misadventure to another over the course of thirty bitingly humorous chapters. The namesake protagonist is really a nave young man whose innocence serves as a foil for the numerous horrific but equally comedic situations that occur.

His trials and tribulations in the world test his inherent optimism, and by the end of the short novel he appears to be much subdued, although it is not absolutely certain that Candide has turned his back on optimism, as is generally claimed by many a literary scholar.

Indeed, Professor Pangloss' belief that "all is for the best in the best of all possible worlds" is not undermined by all the would-be evidence to the contrary that forms the book's plot, for such assertions are inherently outside the realm of evidence, akin to solipsism. Pangloss' philosophy isn't disproved, however arguably put in doubt, since claiming that everything happens for the best is inherently unprovable - as well as unassailable.

To say that all happens for the best is a statement that cannot be proved or disproved. Indeed, it all depends greatly on semantics (though, as semanticists would argue, everything is semantics), or what one means by such terms as "best" and "possible." It all even goes so far as to concern the very idea of free will and what it means to be a self.

At the end of the book, Candide seems tired of debates, and if there is any philosophy that he would espouse it would probably be the kind of "wise know-nothing practicality" of a Solomon, the Solomon of the Book of Ecclesiastes. Though a product of the Enlightenment, Voltaire's work appears to exhibit what would be recognized centuries later as an existential sentiment, even an existential melancholy if not pessimism.

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Your Guidance When Choosing A Headstone

By Tom Tree

When you lay a loved one to rest, you might be left to design the tombstone. What will you put on it? What all do you have to decide? It might seem a little overwhelming which is why we have decided to create this brief guide for you. This will give you an idea about what you need to consider when you are buying a tombstone. Here is some guidance for you.

The first thing that we want to advise you of is to call around. Tombstones are pretty expensive. Therefore, you need to get the best price. However, once you have decided upon the place where you want to purchase the stone then you should go there in person. This is because they normally have things that you can look at to give you an idea of what you are getting.

One of the things that you will have to pick are the materials for the gravestone. Now, this is where it gets a little hectic. This is also where your budget comes into play. The most popular is granite however there are other choices than that. You might even have to pick color as well. Here, you will also want to see samples for a picture might be different in a catalog or online.

The next thing that you are responsible for thinking of is the design. Now, some people have the stones cut. They look like hearts. Some have them circular. There are all sorts of options. Some are stand up headstones and more. Again, we cannot emphasize this enough. Do, ask for samples. This can show you what you are getting.

Last of all, you will have to choose what wording is on the grave stone. For some, they put what is called an epitaph. It commemorates the person in which the tombstone represents. Others have pictures engraved. Think of how the person would want to be honored and you will know what you want on the tombstone.

Once you have all this done, you are done with the tombstone. It doesn't seem like much, but with all the emotions you will be feeling, it might be hard. We understand this. We have helped many families as they work through this process and work to find closure. Give a headstone that leaves a legacy. We are here to help you to make that happen.

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Sunday, June 13, 2010

5 Stages Of Broken Relationship Grief - How To Overcome Them

By Louis Cruz

Broken relationship grief and emotional grief are not much different. In fact they are about the same since emotional grief also has five stages. They both consist of the loss of someone special. Losing somebody you really love is a very hard event in life. But we all must at some point in the road of life encounter this experience. So knowing the five stages and becoming familiar with the stage in which you are will let you conquer and allow you to endure this hard time.


Denial

A disposition of denial usually happens following a breakup of a close and intimate relationship. A relationship that existed for years and all of a sudden is ended could be very traumatic. You might one day come out of work and expect your ex to be outside waiting for you when you then recall that you broke up and your ex is not coming. You realize then that he or she will never be picking you up at work anymore. This may be a challenging situation to swallow. So you tell yourself, "Is this really happening", or "this cannot be".

Anger

The second stage involves the experience of anger. Each of the stages is crucial but this stage is delicate. With this stage you might be at the chance of manifesting your anger in the wrong manner and to the wrong folks. You may get angry at God. But trust me he is not guilty. Crazy things may go through your mind. You may even have thoughts of doing something negative to your ex as well as rejecting the people who so dearly love you and are trying all they can to give you loving care and comfort in this moment of difficult emotions. This is definitely a stage where you have to make an effort to think prior to talk and dedicate a lot of time to meditation.

Bargaining

This is a very crucial stage. What makes this stage difficult is that the pain is making you wish that nothing is happening and that everything will go back to the way it was before. You wish it to be normal once more. So you start bargaining with your ex making promises hoping that you may convince your ex to come back to you. You may also end up making promises to God hoping that he will assist you to get everything you want. Or perform some miracle or something like that. You get false hopes in this stage. You are still trying to hang on to fake hopes and still suffering from denial.

Depression

During this period you happen to be finally recognizing and feeling that all is lost and that you there are no prospects of you fixing your relationship with your ex. So you sink into the stage of depression. You cannot see a clear foreseeable future. You cannot understand what the future will hold for you and you begin to experience sadness and inner thoughts of bitterness and frustration. The emotions are overpowering and cause you to feel sorry for yourself. You also feel helpless. Each one of these feelings is in their peak with this stage. Of all stages this is a time to look for support in the individuals who love you. They could be family or friends. You must not lose faith at all. Lift your eyes up to God if you're a spiritual person and use all means possible to overcome this phase of melancholy. Realize that as time goes on, you certainly will overcome this phase and realize that the future is really not that dim. You can still find many beautiful things in your life and beautiful people to meet with. This takes us to the next stage.

Acceptance

You have gone through some serious stages of grief due to a broken relationship. But now you have fortunately come to the stage of acceptance. Despite the fact that the majority of the previous feelings still exist but you are not combating a great deal against destructive thoughts and false thoughts of hope. This stage of acceptance is not a stage of resignation. Put simply, you just have not given up on life. Quite the opposite, you now accept that you will not be sharing your life with your ex and reset your mind to accept this new life and realized that there is a future without your ex. You are driven to develop your goals gradually so that you can insure a bright future. You also recognize that your broken relationship is in the past and that you must go forward.

As you undergo these stages you will finally get to the phase in which you will appreciate the things you experienced through this difficult time. Continue to look for support in people and always have someone you can speak with. Pray and meditate a lot.

And remember that hundreds of others are going through your same ordeal. You are not alone. You can and will survive this broken relationship grief.

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Memorial Headstone Sayings And Inscriptions

By Tom Tree

Burying a loved one is never easy. We all know how hard it can be. However, the legend you leave behind with memorial headstone sayings and inscriptions are important for the headstone is more for the living. Don't get us wrong, they do honor the deceased, but the words read tell people who you were. That is why there are so many different ones that you can choose from.

Many who are Christians or who have a religious affiliation like to put their favorite verse from the Bible. They find the ones that talk about the life after. It's sort of a nice thing if that is what you believe in. These are just one of the many examples of sayings. To go with that they put their religious symbol as the inscription.

Others choose words of comfort for those who mourn them. It might be something from a poem. It might be something from a song even. These words come from the heart and are there to make the burden light that one might be feeling when a loved one has departed.

Some people like to reference their status. This is especially true for the more notable things that one might belong to. For instance, the military seal can be engraved. To go with those, some have quotes about serving for your country. Others might have a verse from a poem that might tell what they achieved in life.

The last thing that some choose are words of comfort. When you think about the headstone saying, it's not for the dead which these are made. They are made for those who grieve so that they can easily find their departed loved one. So, during these times, the family might like to have a few words of encouragement. For those who are religious, this might be something referring to being with their Heavenly Father. Yet, for some, it might just be remembering the good times.

Whatever you choose, make it come from the heart. It sets a tone for who you were. There are some people who just love looking through graveyards for the different headstones that are there. You can learn a lot about a person from these. So, leave your mark.

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Saturday, June 12, 2010

Is Illumination For Grave Marker Necessary

By Tom Tree

Having to put a loved one in a grave can be a difficult thing to do. However, you will know that you are going to have to answer many questions before you reach this stage. One of those that you might be have to answer is lighting for headstone necessary. This is an odd question to be asked, but one that if asked you will want to have the answer to.

One thing to consider would be if you are going to be visiting at night. If you are going to visit at night you might want to consider getting this because you will be able to see your loved ones site and be able to know that your at the right spot.

Something else that you can consider is if you have the extra money that these might cost. Some of the cost that you can find would be the initial cost, but then you are going to want to figure out the charging system and how often you are going to need to replace any batteries that these use.

Before making any purchase of these though you need to check with the cemetery that your going to be using and see what restrictions they have. Since some of the ones in your area might not even allow you to have these you could find that if you purchase without checking you could have just wasted your money.

Another thing to consider would be if you are going to want to maintain the upkeep on these for years to come. Since you might not be willing to do this and only keep them up for a year or so you will probably be questioning if it is going to pay off for you in the long run.

Having to bury a loved one is a difficult task to do. However, you are going to want to answer some questions first to see is lighting for headstone necessary or not. If you find that it is then you will want to purchase them.

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Friday, June 11, 2010

These Magic Moments

By Margaret Hardisty

Mark became furious when his wife, Mindy, had an affair. "He's a jerk!" Mark fumed. That "jerk" was doing the things for her that Mark used to do before they were married. Mr. Jerk made Mindy feel beautiful, desirable and loved. Mark loved his wife deeply, but didn't show it except when he wanted sex. Even then it was nothing much but raw passion. He wasn't able to save his marriage.

Mindy then went on to marry the "jerk" and was doomed to repeat the same patterns of neglect she had been in with Mark. Love Relationship Headquarters sees this same scenario over and over again. That's why we have felt compelled to help people get on a different pathway in their lives.

Women want to be worshipped and adored outside the bedroom as well as within. Of course, she wants that inside the bedroom, too, but if she doesn't get it "outside," she doesn't appreciate what she gets "inside."

Women want to receive attention for other things she is good at. Jerilou complained that her husband plopped down in front of the TV the minute he got home for work, insisted that they eat in front of it, and watched it afterward until bedtime. "I hate to say I'm jealous of the boob tube," she said, "but I feel as if he doesn't know I'm alive. I resent it."

Both of you, if you haven't been filling each other needs to the fullest there is no time like the present to get started. You may be out of practice, or may have never learned exactly how to do this. We are here to help you. Strengthening and saving marriages is our business. It's what we've spent our lives learning how to do. We've seen a lot of successes because our message is unique.

Go to www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com. Start clicking away and discover some of the most helpful books and materials you'll ever have at your disposal. We want your marriage to be saved and if you think it doesn't need that, we can assure you that it does need to be made better.

Go to www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com. Start clicking away and discover some of the most helpful books and materials you'll ever have at your disposal. We can help you save your marriage. Even if it does not need saving - we can help you make it even better. Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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When Is The Appropriate Time To Start Thinking About Buying A Headstone?

By Tom Tree

No one wants to think about dying. It's an unpleasant thought, but the thing is that we can go about and lose our life at any moment. So, some of you might want to go about and think when is the best time to consider buying a headstone? This is a little hard to say. With this in mind, there are things to consider.

Some will say sooner. They have a design in mind, therefore, they want to know what they are getting. They want it to say something and they don't trust their families to make sure that what they want is what they get. That is just one option.

The first thing is if you have a very dangerous job. Those who risk their life every day is one of those who should think about having plans made ahead of time. One of those things should be buying a headstone. This is something that your family might favor. They might like the fact that this is something that they don't want to have to choose.

Others might find that the family wants a family plot with a family headstone. Therefore, the family should be the ones to choose what they want. They choose to get the headstone early on and with that in mind, they search for something that they both like. This is just another option.

However, sometimes, families like to choose them. They like people to know that the person they buried were amazing family members and more. That is something that gives them comfort. The best thing is to talk with your loved ones to know what they want. Some of them want to do it this way while others choose to do this another way.

This is how some decide when they are going to buy their headstone. When it comes down to it, some don't have the money until they have passed. So, look at what you want. Look at what the family thinks is a good idea. Look at your finances. This could be what tells you what is in your best of interest in ordering your headstone.

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