Death is coming

The closer death creeps up upon me the less I am able to understand the reasons for life or living.

Yes I have experienced a close family member dying and unlike television it takes decades to handle such a thing. To think I am going to put my family through such a thing when I finally leave is more horrific to me than the thought of death itself.

My life was and is still a learning experience but when all said and done what am I to do with all this accumulated learning over my lifetime if I just die. There is no logic or reason to this.

Long ago I became aware that the God story that is sold to the majority is just a nice story to give mankind with a message of a basic layout of how nice life could be if everyone followed these ideas. Not many in life do and if one thinks about it the good and evil structures actually depend on each other. The good that can be experienced in life is only understood as good when there is it's opposite to compare it to. This is not rocket science only common sense in reality. I am not saying we need to experience bad but understanding in it is needed to appreciate the great things many of us can have in our lives. From birth to death there are many ways mankind helps his fellow man. How many ways can you help?


Saturday, July 4, 2009

How To Save Your Relationship After Cheating?

By Ricardo d Argence

Does it seem like relationships and cheating go to together like chocolate and peanut butter? It can start to when everyone you know has had someone cheat on them. And chances are that you've had someone cheat on you. Or when it comes to relationships and cheating, you were the one doing the cheating.

There is a tremendous amount of pain that comes along with cheating. Cheating can affect everyone around you and you not even realize it. Cheating hurts the person whose is being cheated on and also hurt the cheater believe it or not.

Sometimes if you are suspicious about your significant other cheating on you, then you may want to pay attention to his or her moods. In any case if you or someone else is cheating, it doesn't always spell the end of the relationship.

What cheating leads to is a rather large trust issue in most cases. Once cheated on it is very hard in some cases to trust them for anything, sitting there wondering if you will be cheated on again. Knowing that someone cheated makes it something that's hard to recover from.

It's not easy to save these relationships, and cheating is something that can sometimes happen more than once. But if you can truly rebuild your trust in the other person, then you can stay together and be happy.

Do you know why the person cheated on you? That's a very important consideration in whether you'll be able to trust them not to cheat on you again. Were things not good in your relationship at the time, or was it just convenient and just "happened?" You should be able to have a calm discussion about these reasons.

If the reasons turn out to be things like he or she was simply bored that day and the opportunity came along, then you may have problems. If the other person can give no better reasons for hurting you that way, you may want to consider whether you really can forgive them to be happy. It won't be easy.

If you were having problems, then at least the other person may have thought that the relationship was going to end anyway. They might have felt ignored or undervalued.

There isn't a good excuse for cheating and anyway put will be a bad one. However, the excuse will mean a lot to the relationship and whether or not it can be saved.

Staying in a relationship when there is no trust can be a very bad thing. Most people especially with children involved will try to make it work, but in most cases it just leads to even more devastating break ups. Some move on quite well from and forgive rather quickly. In there is a trust issue there that seems as if you cant get over it, there isn't any reason to keep it going.

The stress that can be caused by cheating in a relationship can reach levels of making you sick. Getting to a point where you can trust a person again is easier said then done. Living your life stressing about where or whom your significant other is with, isn't any way to live your life.

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Friday, July 3, 2009

Learn Telepathy - A Natural Ability!

By Georgia McClough

Every human being can learn telepathy. This ability translates to sensing and transmitting feelings over a distance, without using any of the five physical senses or using words. This kind of mind to mind communication works instantly and can even cross enormous distances.

If you believe that you cannot learn telepathy, think again. You've probably already had some kind of telepathic experience yet did not realize it was happening or didn't interpret it as being telepathic. For instance, you've likely had the experience of suddenly thinking about someone that you haven't spoken to, maybe not even thought of until that moment, for a long time; then, later on that day or the day after, you receive a telephone call, e-mail, or letter from that very person.

What happened was, one or both of you telepathically made contact with the other, transmitting emotions of affection, longing, wonder at their current state of affairs, or something like that.

This telepathic contact encouraged them to get in touch with you. Perhaps you were the first person to think of them, and the other person received your emotions and felt like contacting you. Or maybe they contacted you, felt your return thoughts of them without your being aware of it, and that was the reason they chose to make contact another way. They may have even been planning to get in touch, and you perceived that intent telepathically before the contact ever happened.

Many people feel that they cannot learn telepathy for one reason or another. It might have to do with religious upbringing teaching them that telepathy is 'sorcery' and 'of the devil', so they have never tried to learn it and might even have suppressed any telepathic experiences they were having until they could no longer recognize them. They may also have been told that telepathy is irrational nonsense because there's no 'scientific evidence' for it-another lie (there actually is such evidence).

Now, one barrier to people learning telepathy is that there is another myth surrounding telepathy that many who actually use it believe. This is the idea that spoken language is 'inferior' and we only learned it because, for some mysterious reasons, our telepathic abilities decayed over millennia. This is just as untrue as the above-mentioned myths. However, there was a time when words and telepathy went hand in hand -like music and lyrics.

In this analogy, the music is telepathy and the lyrics are spoken language, with each working to enhance the other. Words have the ability to define and clarify telepathic messages, which is why we have them. Unfortunately, dependence on spoken language causes telepathy to be neglected and forgotten.

So, if your interest is peaked and you want to open up new doors of perception and closeness with other people, how can you learn telepathy? It's actually not nearly as difficult as it sounds to the uninitiated. All it takes is what everything takes: practice.

First, you should partner up with someone, preferably a long-established friend, who shares your open-minded attitude about the possibility of telepathic powers. In fact if it's possible, partner up with someone who burns with the desire to learn it (as hopefully you also do). When you're starting out you need all the positive reinforcement you can get.

Next, you and your partner must separate from each other at least enough to where you can't physically see each other. You also need to both relax as much as you possibly can. As with most things, being all tensed up will interfere and negatively impact your performance. Clear your minds of any stresses, worries about things, etc. Have a method of getting in touch with each other in the usual way available, such as a telephone.

Now, one at a time (you'll need to previously agree on who will go first), visualize the other person as clearly in your mind as you can. Then, visualize some kind of connection between you - a physical connection, something like a golden light that surrounds you both, or a magical thread of pure energy that connects you.

The next thing to do is to send a thought through that thread or from one light into the other. This is like a web transmission or phone call. Keep it simple to start with and go with the clearest thought possible. Make it something the other person can't guess without contact, though!

When you feel (literally) that you've completed this telepathic transmission, contact the partner by cellphone, etc, and ask them what if anything they saw in their mind. Once you've compared notes, it's the partner's turn to telepathically send to you.

Remember that when you're just starting out, you should take things slowly. If after a quarter of an hour you can't transmit, stop and take a break. Early attempts should be brief to keep you from getting tired and frustrated. Negative feelings are bad for your efforts.

If you're interested in learning telepathy, positive energy is one of the most important things. Don't give up until you begin to see results, and you'll find a whole new world opening up in front of you.

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Getting Back Together With My Ex Girlfriend - How To Do It

By Anne Torres

Here are a number of tips to help you get back together with your ex girlfriend:

1. First you should find out why you want your ex girlfriend back. Is it because you love her? Do you truly want her back? Are you scared of being alone and getting your ex back is the easiest way to avoid this? If you don't really love your ex and you are trying to get back together for other reasons then the relationship may not be worth rekindling.

2. If your major reason revolves around "how can I get back together with my ex girlfriend" then don't act needy or desperate when talking to her. You must stay up to speed and keep your emotions in check. If you need to express your emotions or cry then do it away from her, perhaps to a friend or family member. Don't let your ex see this. This puts her on top of things and takes your power away.

3. If you can't control your feelings or you come off as to needy this may be a turn off to your ex. Avoid self-pity and feeling sorry for yourself. Focus of the positive aspects of building a new relationship with your ex.

4. Communicate in a casual way after the break up. Show her that you can keep the lines of communication open in a friendly and casual way. Don't force the subject or press her too hard when speaking with her. Learn to be able to simply say hello and keep the conversation light.

5. Something happened to cause the conclusion of the relationship. Be sure you find out exactly what it was. If you want to focus on "how to get back together with my ex girlfriend" then you need to know what caused her to flee in the first place. Once you know this you can start working on the repair of the situation.

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Thursday, July 2, 2009

How to Get Back With Your Ex After Making Relationship Mistakes

By Ricardo d Argence

When an ex leaves the relationship, the person left behind, most often may not recognize how much in love they are with their ex. You may wish to learn how to get back with your ex, if you find yourself in this type of situation and you will not want to let too much time get away from you.

What you must not do is to allow the fact that you have made some mistakes to stop you in your attempt. It is very well documented that most of the relationships that break up could very easily be put back together again, if only one of those involved actually tried. So try!

There are particular steps you can take when you want to get back with your ex, however, you must understand and follow these steps. Following each of the steps will take some time and effort.

The time it takes will of course, depend on the situation and all situations vary. The truth of the matter is that you are the one to judge the amount of time required to fulfill your desires.

When the relationship was emotionally messy and chaotic, it will take a longer amount of time to get over the initial break up. Much longer than trying to patch up a stable, less dramatic relationship.

So, be honest with yourself and be clear about what kind of relationship you had with your ex, because the truth right here will go a long way to helping you figure out how to get lover back.

Very often, it takes about a month of alone time without trying to make any type of contact with your ex in order to heal from the relationship. Make sure you take this time for yourself without attempting to get back your ex.

You need this time alone to think about the mistakes you may have made as well as learn how you can forgive yourself for any mistakes.

You will not be able to get your ex back if you cannot forgive yourself. Forgiving yourself also increases the chance of you ex forgiving you as well. Be kind and loving to you, realize no one is perfect, and then forgive yourself.

This is not to say that you just forget about your mistakes, you have to consider them and then forgive yourself.

You need to consider how you can avoid making the same mistakes in the future, if you find yourself in the same type of situation. You have to break free of any negative cycle that may cause things to go bad again.

After sorting through your emotions, you need to determine the reasons you made any mistakes. After doing so, you are more ready to begin making contact with your ex to discuss your future together.

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Get Your Ex Back - One Super Tip to Help You Get Back Together With Your Ex

By Anne Torres

You're brokenhearted. You can't eat or sleep. You just want to get your ex back. Nothing you have tried works so what are you to do? Here is one super tip that if you gulp down a little pride and put into practice, will help radically augment your chances of getting back together with your ex.

So what is this earth shattering tip you ask?

Well, it is truly nothing earth shattering, but it is something that the majority of people realize they almost certainly should do but never actually have the guts to do which is this - put the shoe on the other foot.

Try and see your relationship from the other side. It is so crucial, yet so overlooked that if people actually did this before the relationship became broken they could have avoided the breakup altogether.

But it also works wonders for patching up that broken relationship, particularly if you are trying to get back with your ex. You need to spend some time thinking about things from your ex's standpoint.

Take some quiet time and find a place where you know you won't be interrupted and then really engage in some deep and critical thinking about what went wrong, but try to think about it from the other side.

Ask yourself the subsequent questions:

What does my ex truly want in a partner, and more purposely from me?

What makes him or her content?

What makes them mad or upset?

What did I do that helped to corrode the relationship to the point of breaking and was it worth it?

If you actually take the time to do this, you'll probably be amazed at the new perspective that you gain and that we are not always right. There needs to be some give and take in a healthy relationship. You have to make sacrifices at times, and so does your partner.

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Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Work on Yourself If You Really Want to Get Back With Your Ex Boyfriend

By Ricardo d Argence

So you've just heard through friends that your ex boyfriend, who you've never really got over, is dating someone else and hearing it cuts deep. Your first thought is that you must win ex boyfriend back before he gets too serious with this other girl.

Take it easy and don't do anything rash. Before you launch a plan to win you ex boyfriend back, remember that you have something the new girl doesn't. You have some history with him. Many times history takes precedence and overrides everything.

Now think about that history, those good times with your ex boyfriend. How good were they really, because clearly something went terribly wrong. With time we often slide on the old rose colored spectacles. Be sure that your memories are grounded in reality and not fantasy.

If you're really not sure, talk to a close friend before going full on in your efforts to win ex boyfriend back. Ask your friend to be honest with you. You need to hear the truth, not just what you would like to hear. Listen to what your friend tells you and then weigh it against what you know to be true. Use this information to make a decision about what you should do next.

If you have analyzed the situation honestly and determined that some parts of your behavior were a main reason for the break down in the relationship, then you need to look for ways to amend that behavior.

It will be a complete waste of time to try to win ex boyfriend back if the reasons for the break up are still staring each of you in the face. Deal with whatever needs to be dealt with on your end before you make any kind of serious reconciliation attempt.

Assuming that you decide to go ahead and try and get your ex boyfriend back, you then need to make contact with him. Call him and ask if you can meet up with him somewhere neutral. Don't let it sound as though you are going to drop anything too heavy on him because you don't want to frighten him off at this point.

To win ex boyfriend back make sure that when you meet him, you explain to him that you have thought long and hard about what happened in your relationship.

Let him know that you've done a great deal of work in order to sort yourself out. Tell him that you realized that you still have deep feelings for him and that you want another chance.

Give him the space he needs to tell you how he feels and what he really wants. No matter what, do not get overly emotional or angry if you don't hear what you want to hear. He may need some tome to think things over.

Don't rush him, just leave and wait for him to call you. With any luck, you'll get the call you want and you'll be back together.

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Accept Responsibility for Your Mistakes if You Want to Patch Things Up With Your Ex

By Ricardo d Argence

If you're hoping to get back together with your ex and you know that it was due to your mistakes that she left you, then you'll need to accept responsibility for those mistakes.

As sure as eggs are eggs, making mistakes in relationships means you have to fix them and apologize for those mistakes before there can be any making up.

When you try to patch things up with your ex, you'll need to acknowledge the reason why the relationship broke down in the first place and of course you'll also need to face up to what your part was in the breakdown.

You should also bear in mind that it won't do any good for you to come down too hard on yourself for having made mistakes. Remember, everybody makes mistakes and it's not the mistakes which are important, but rather high you deal with them afterwards.

And a time such as this, you'd be well advised to sit back and ponder as to what exactly when wrong. Of course, it only stands to reason that you will inevitably start thinking about mistakes which your ex made. However, you should bear in mind that this is something you can deal with at a later date. At present you should only be concerning yourself with those things which you are able to influence.

Irrespective of what mistakes you made in the past, do you think it's possible that your ex will be able to forgive you for them? Whatever you do, don't be too quick to come down hard on yourself by being that your mistakes are unforgivable.

You would be surprised at the situations that couples find themselves in and that they later recover from. So don't think that your mistakes are beyond forgiveness. There is always hope!

Furthermore, you need to try and determine what exactly what's happening at that time that you made the mistakes, particularly if they were in contrast to your usual character. This is where you may need to come face to face with accepting responsibility for your mistakes.

Perhaps you'll notice that at that time of you making those mistakes, you were under an exceptional amount of stress, or perhaps your career was lying in the balance. In fact, you may have been experiencing serious family issues or you may just not have been feeling like your usual self. If that was the case, then of course you'll need to sit down with your ex and explain everything in detail.

If your mistakes were the result of you just being thoughtless or selfish, then this is something about you and your character that can quite easily be fixed. It will take ongoing monitoring but if you are sincerely committed to get back with ex, then it is going to be worthwhile.

Once you're satisfied that you have a clear understanding with regards to your mistakes and why you made them, then you should consider contacting your ex to arrange a meeting. For your sake as well as her, you should choose to meet each other in a public area where there are lots of people as this will discourage both of you from becoming emotional.

When you do meet, you need to do what ever you must in order to remain calm and focused on what needs to be said. When the opportunity arises go ahead and apologize and ask her to forgive you. Once you're done then of course you need to listen carefully while your ex lets you know what's on her mind.

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